A letter to her in The Present
- Nov. 20, 2016, 12:41 p.m.
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Dear you,
I have tried very hard for the last 2.5 years to be the bigger person, to show grace and maturity, to be understanding. During this time, I have tried to embrace you, your friendship, and your friendship with my husband. I did this because it was what he wanted, what you wanted, what I though I wanted,and what I thought was the most Christian thing to do.
I have absolutely nothing against you personally; perhaps if this situation had not gone down as such, we could have been friends. But it did, and unfortunately, you represent something very painful and hurtful to me. I have a very difficult time getting past that.
I have been putting others before myself for so long, I didn’t even realize how much damage I was doing to myself. I’m coming to terms with this in all aspects of my life. I’m tired of being unhappy and feeling like a shell of a human being, so I’m attempting to examine all parts of my life and fix what I can control.
It’s true that initially I thought our friendship was beneficial to me, and maybe it was. Or maybe I only thought that because it was my way of fitting into the scenario set up between the two of you. In hindsight, though, I see where I have been damaging my psyche over and over again.
I feel bad doing this right now; you have a terrible road ahead of you with your physical recovery. I don’t want to you to feel at fault for me feeling this way, even though I know you will.
We’ve all said our peace with regards to the situation, and I’ve forgiven both of you for what happened. But now I need space. I’ve been putting band aids on wounds that require many stitches. I need healing, and unfortunately, I’m not sure I can get that if we remain in contact. I wish you the best in all you set forth to do. Maybe, eventually, I’ll feel comfortable reaching back out to you, but for now, I just can’t.
I have not sent this (nor will I), but it feels good to get it out.
Deleted user ⋅ November 20, 2016
I used to do this. Write letters just to get it out but not send them. Glad it helps.
WizeArtWorx ⋅ November 20, 2016
It's amazing how cathartic it can be to just get these thoughts out, isn't it?
You seem like such a kind person, and while I don't know you personally, I hate seeing anyone suffer with something like this. Now, obviously I don't know her, either, but I have a serious problem with women like that. Regardless of emotions, if someone you like is with someone else, you have to learn to respect that- I've been cheated on a good bit during my life, and I don't understand how people can just have such a disdainful lack of respect for that!
I really hope you and your husband manage to rectify everything and find your way back to each other. You deserve happiness!
:)
Nope. WizeArtWorx ⋅ November 20, 2016
Thank you. You are very kind.
Ferret Mom ⋅ November 23, 2016
I hope writing this was therapeutic.