THE LATEST in HUBBY
- May 25, 2016, 1:38 p.m.
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I HAVE BEEN BUSY CARING FOR MY HUBBY. I HAVE ALWAYS SAID THAT IT IS VERY IMPORTANT TO LOOK AFTER THE CAREGIVER. I NOW UNDERSTAND FULLY WHAT I MEANT. HUBBY IS LYING IN BED ALL DAY ALTHOUGH HE IS GETTING OUT MORE. MEANWHILE I AM RUNNING BACK AND FORTH TO THE HOSPITAL. I AM LOOKING AFTER THE BILLS, THE HOUSE, THE CAR AND HIM ETC. I AM NOT COMPLAINING! I AM JUST TRYNG TO GET PEOPLE TO UNDERSTAND WHAT A DIFFICULT ROLE THE CAREGIVER HAS. I AM DOING FINE. MY DAUGHTER HAS BEEN HERE WITH ME. MY SON IS A WONDERFUL HELP. MY OTHER SON IS A DIFFERENT MATTER. HE IS BUSY WITH HIMSELF.
HE JUST FINSHED PLANNING MY GRANDSON’S BAR MITZVAH. MY DAUGHTER IN LAE DID MOST OF THE PLANNING. THE BAR MITZVAH WAS BEAUTIFUL MY GRANDSON DID GREAT. MY SON WAS UNDER ALOT OF PRESSURE BECAUSE EVERYTHING HAD TO BE PERFECT. MY SON IS IN A LOUSY MARRIAGE. HE WON’T LEAVE SO HE IS CONSTANTLY BEING “TORTURED.” HIS WIFE WANTS EVEYTHING DONE YESTERDAY OR EVEN LAST WEEK AND MY SON JUST DOESN’T THINK LIKE THAT. A FEW NIGHTS AGO HE WAS IN EMERGENCY WITH A BAD PAIN IN HIS BACK. OY!!!!!!!!! I WENT TO SEE HIM IN EMERGENCY BUT HAVEN’T SEEN HIM YET. I AM SPENDING MOST DAYS AT THE HOSPITAL UNTIL MY PTHER SON COMES AND THEN I GO HOME. I ARRIVE HOME EXHAUSTED. MY DAUGHTER COMES BETWEEN TWO AND THREE. SHE HAS HER PWN PROBLEMS. SHE IS TRYING TO SORK ON HER PHD. IT ISN’T EASY TO FOCUS WHEN HER DAD IS SO SICK. I ENCOURAGE HER TO GO HOME TO TORONTOP BUT SHE HASN’T LISTENED SO FAR.
SHE WANTS TO PLAN HER WEDDING. SHE WAANTS TO HAVE A BAY. SHE NEEDS TO HAVE IN VITRO. THE OTHER DAY HER DOCTOR TOLD HER THAT HER FERTILITY LEVEL HAS DROPPED DRAMATICALLY. WHILE I AM HAPY SHE IS HERE I WANT HER TO CONTINUE WITH HER LIFE. SHE IS N’T GETTING ANY YOUNGER.**
ANYHOW I AM EXHAUSTED. MY DAUGHTER WANTS TO BRING MY HUBBY HOME HE IS GETTING STRONGER BUT I DON’T WANT THE FULL RESPONSIBILITY. THE CANCER IS STILL THERE AND GROWING. MY HUBBY IS HAPPY IN THE HOSPITRAL, IN HIS ROOM ETC. HE GETS REGULAR VISITORS. HE IS GETTING HELP ON EVERYY LEVEL. I AM THERE FROM 9-6 UNTIL MY SON COMES.
ANYHOW THAT’S THE LATEST FROM HERE. I DON’T KNOW WHY BUT I WISH OPEN DIARY WAS BACK. I JUST DON’T FEEL COMFORTABLE HERE.
Katren...In Conclusion ⋅ May 25, 2016
Here's an old reader from Open Diary to say "Hello" and wishing beter things for you.
Silent Echo/Quiet Storm ⋅ May 25, 2016
i do know what you are going thru. i went thru it from march 2007 to june 2008. it's hard, the hardest thing i've ever done. everything that he did fell on me plus all that i did was still there for me to do. you will survive but, you'll wonder how you're gonna do it. all the worry about him, how you're gonna get everythign done, how you will manage after, are you doing all that's necessary, is there anything else you could do, your mind is in overload and you probably feel overwhelmed. not only all that, but, in the night when you're alone, your mind goes into overdrive and you think thoughts you're afraid to voice outloud. you have my prayers. i know how hard it is. i wish i could tell you something that would help but, there isn't. this is something you have to go thru alone. please take care of yourself. make sure you get enuf sleep. please don't forget to eat. if you feel sick, please stay home and rest... let your kids keep your hubby company. he may not want constant company. if you don't take care of you, you wont' be able to take care of him. take care,
cardslinger ⋅ May 26, 2016
I cannot imagine the stress you must be feeling but wishing every good fortune as you care for your hubby and yes, take care of yourself!