My marriage has been… not-so-good. His treatment of me has been something that I’m not really willing to tolerate. I’m walking on eggshells around him. I say or do the wrong thing constantly. He seems to think the things I do or say are a personal attack against him. If I don’t do what he wants, he gets angry. Earlier he wanted me to watch tv with him, but my daughter asked for food so I went to the kitchen and fed her. While I was in there, I noticed that the trash needed taken out, dishes needed done, and the countertops needed wiped off. So I started to do all of that, and he came in and was angry because I wasn’t spending time with him. We decided to spend all day together tomorrow when the babysitter is here, so I thought it was okay that I would do housework today.
He has been using me as an emotional punching bag. Insulting me. Bringing up past mistakes and holding that against me. Threatening to leave me. Most of the time he isn’t like this, it’s only when we are fighting. But things feel tenuous.
I’m resenting him more with each passing day. Whenever we talk about it, he thinks I’m the root of most of our problems. He can never see anything the way that I see it, and I apparently can’t do the same for him.
I do most of the housework and childcare, and I’m letting him have more freedom lately but it just isn’t helping.
We fight so much about the same things; it’s a terrible cycle.
I don’t know.
I’m 100% financially dependent on him. This blows.
I know I’m not even nearly perfect. But it’s not all me. I know that.\
edit:
I asked him for counseling, and he asked me to move out.
But then he said he doesn’t want me to leave.
This is why I feel confused, and why I’m shut down emotionally.
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