113 days! Wednesday, April 25, 2007
Yes folks, at 113 days in a row the phone calls from Derek finally end! I am actually excited about this. Why? It just aint in the stars for me to have a boyfriend. This is ok for me. I am finally accepting this and moving on.
What finally broke us up may seem small and insignificant, however hear me out.
On Thursday, 2 days after my surgery and while I am still taking narcotics for pain I asked Derek if he would take my trash out because I am not supposed to be lifting.
The man said NO. I was so taken back I didn't even know what to say, so I just said "umm ok. I'll do it myself later."
He did claim that he was going to do it the next time he came over. He hasn't been back since that day or even brought it up. I thought about the whole trash thing for days and decided that a boyfriend that wouldn't take the trash out for his girlfriend, who just went through surgery, is NOT the kind of man I want to date. MAYBE if we had been dating for 2 years or something, but after only 4 months of dating I think this is crazy. I would have done anything for him. However, I am probably too nice.
The other thing is that his attitude has been changing. The other day on the phone I was saying something, and he cuts me off and says, "oh that's nice." Being that I was in the middle of a sentence and he made it abundantly clear that he didn't care about what I was saying I just went dead silent. Finally he said he'd call me later. He did.
I didn't answer. And because I didn't answer when he called, he hasn't called me in two days. Which is fine, because the last 10 times I have called him he didn't answer. He does this on purpose. It's always on his terms. And guess what? Relationships take two people, not just one that is a controlling asshole.
I don't know what happened to him. He was so nice in the beginning. Normally it takes 8 months before people show their true colors. Oh well, I am clearly too good for him anyway. I don't just say that to make me feel better. I say that because my priorities are different then his. He goes to the bar on Sunday with his mom and gets trashed. I go to church on Sundays. He drives his car with out insurance. I wouldn't ever. We are different. Plain and simple.
That's all for now. I will write later about the second thing I want to talk about.
Her
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What a prick! You're better off...but you knew that already! [Mommy2Katie] 4/25/2007 4:18:08 PM
Good for you to realize that you dont need him. He just sounds like such a jerk! You really have a good head on your shoulders if you can kick him to the curb like this. Good for you! [Slytherin Blood] 4/25/2007 5:33:30 PM
You do indeed sound like two very different people. And you're absolutely right, any guy (regardless of whether you're dating, married, whatever) who won't take the trash out for a woman who just had surgery is an ass.
[OddJohn]
4/25/2007 5:58:29 PM
Well, he sounds like an ass! I'm sorry. You deserve so much better! [One Crazy Mom] 4/26/2007 11:49:02 PM
wow what a jerk...I can't believe he treated you like that. and it isn't a small thing that he didn't take out the trash...it spoke volumes of his character. I hope you are feeling better and find someone good for you! [lostonthesea] 4/26/2007 11:57:45 PM
You are so smart, cutting it off right where the pleasantries end. I wish I had the ballz to do that! [klu_v] 5/2/2007 3:35:02 PM
ryn - I just haven't got round to adding everyone yet! Usually if you click back to the weigh in page, everyone's there in the notes part. I'll try and add a few more people now, but these things take time! xx [BecomingSlim]
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