Okay. I guess this is the short version.
He feels like neither of us knows who we are anymore, and we are having trouble reconciling that, and have not found a way to find ourselves while being together. He doesn’t feel “allowed” to do things that make him feeel like himself because I make him feel guilty.
He feels like we ard just co-parents and there is hardly any intimacy between us. I agree with him, but it has been making me feel very sad for a long time. In my attempts to join him in some of his hobbies, he saw that as me saying he can’t do them without me.
He thinks I get too impatient with the kids. I have been workingb on that and doing better.
He thinks that I refuse to establish hobbies and time for myself. He can’t stand to see me turn into a miserble person like my mother.
He does not feel supported in his endeavors,i.e. hobbies and making friends mostly. I have always supportes his career aspirations. I encourage him to go out with friends or to a movie but he has been refusing, saying that I will be angry for it later.
I have been trying hard not to get angry, because it is my issue and not his, but he doesn’t seem to give me any credit for it.
We both feel like we are always on eggshells around each other.
He snaps at me for little things. I am sure i do the same.
Sorry for the errors, I am on my phone.
This is al just a big mess and I am hoping counseling helps.
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