Oh yes, I am in a mood now......
Amazing how things go around here in our little humble abode.
Over a month ago my dear one had surgery, a pretty major surgery at that.
That first weekend post-op, her mother came to visit and watch over her. Then her mother spent Monday and Tuesday here while I was at work. I had asked her if I could use FMLA (Family Medical Leave Act) to stay at home and take care of her, but was told by dear one that was not necessary.
When I came home on that Monday dear one was up and about, laundry going, dryer filled, baskets the floor being filled with freshly floded laundry. On Tuesday it was much the same, even dishes done. All the laundry had to be carried downstairs and then back up.
It was so amazing to see such a speedy recovery!
But on Wednesday her mother left on vacation with her b/f, and dear one’s recovery stopped dead in its tracks.
Soon she was bed ridden. She would not get out of bed to even walk downstairs to let the dog out or to get the meals I left for her. She would stay in the bed propped up (Full Motion Temperpedic) watching television. I wondered what was happening. Why was she unable to come downstairs, where as just a few days earlier while her mother was here she was Super Woman doing all sorts of chores around the house.
And it grew worse.
She was sleeping all day and in the evenings I would have to take her dinner so she could lay in bed and eat. Then she would stay up all night because she could not sleep. I would be awakened by the glow of her reading lamp or even one night the soft ticking of the keyborad and the glow of the monitor as she had the laptop in bed with her. It became very difficult to sleep and forbidden for me to escape to sleep in another room or downstairs on the sofa.
And when we travel she rides in the back floor of our truck. We have a lovely four door truck and it has a flat floor. She has a bed back there composed of many layers of blankets and quilts. She says she cannot ride in the front seat as she is afraid of wearing a seat belt. She wants nothing on the trocar sites from her surgery. In the month since her surgery I have only seen her in pants once, as nothing can be on her sites. It is horrible driving her around as I hear the grunts and groans of her rolling about on the floor, she cannot see traffic and instinctively hold on or control herself. And of course there is no conversation as she cannot clearly understand me as she lays back there.
We were invited to a comedy show, but we had to pass as laughter or any straining hurt her abdominal area. I had to take her to get a belly band, something to support and compress the area.
It has been very trying to say the least as instead of improving post operatively I have seen her actually getting worse.
Her Surgeon placed her on Hormone Replacement Therapy this week. He thinks she is like this do to the loss of hormones. It took a lot to get her to take the med, even though it is a patch. The first one did not make it through the first night, amazingly it came off and was found rolled up in the bed. The Doctor even allowed her to take off anther three weeks, a total of 7 weeks off. I do not know if her short term disability is coming in or not as she has had no confirmation. I have been told to watch my spending. I have been riding my Harley even in the rain as the majority of my money goes for fuel and food.
I spend most evenings downstairs in the company and comfort of my computer. I listen out for her to call out should she need something I have not taken her. I keep a folding TV table at her bedside for snacks and drinks. The dozen roses I bought her never made it upstairs.
Our realtionship is strained more than normal. I have tried be understanding and helpful. I have been blessed that there are no dressings to change, no packing to deal with, only one bandaide.
She has now began getting very dizzy, I have to help her stay upright and not fall. She did have an ear infection 3 weeks ago, but she thinks she still has that after the antibiotics. Oh yes, the antibiotics have caused a yeast infection to, yet she has not had me go to the pharmacy to get the prescription her Doctor wrote for that.
She has been suffering terribly. I had suggested we take a weekend and maybe go on a little trip to the beach, Gulf Shores, something just her, the dog and I. But traveling was nixed.
I found another charity ride for September 6, I was telling her about it and she questioned if I had signed her up to go as well. I thought it strange, she cannot ride in the seat of our truck, yet she is wanting to go on a charity motorcycle ride on her bike? Last one was a bust. She would not keep up claiming her bike will not do the speed limit. I paid $40 and we rode only about 5 miles and had to stop. It was my fault as I had not checked, thinking the ride was only in town, not on the open Highway as she does not ride there.
Today she has had a miracle!
She has loaded up in Mandy’s compact car and headed off to the Old Dominion to get Mandy’s posessions that her wife is allowing her to have. My wife, one whose has not laughed because it hurt her surgical site, one who is unable to sit up in our truck, one who could not get out of bed for weeks, one that sleeps all day, has healed and is off on a cross State trip to help her best friend move!
Blessed be, it is a miracle!!!!!!
She called me on the phone to let me know they were on the road. She was laughing and happy, sounding much like her old self.
Then she started telling me how she has my weekend planned out. She expects me to have dinner with her mother tonight, then tomorrow have lunch with her mother, Aunt and Uncle.
Dear sweet miracle cure girl told me that she will be home tomorrow night.
I have news for her. I am dining alone tonight. Tomorrow I am going to cookout that is being held to raise money for the Troops. Then tomorow night I am going to a concert. I will be out this evening detailing my bike, then “spit shinning” my combat boots and washing my favorite tight jeans and a cool Harley t-shirt for tomorrow.
Yes I am going out and I am having some fuckin fun!!!!!!!!
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