No going back: The Internet has radically changed everything we do in daily life and has probably rewired our brains in Daydreaming on the Porch

  • Sept. 6, 2022, 1:01 p.m.
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Once again I’ve been thinking about a really fascinating topic, namely, how technology has affected our lives in the past years 25 years. What do we do differently now as opposed to then? Turns out, just about everything that affects our day-to-lives.

It’s a topic that resonates with me because when the Internet and World Wide Web blazed across everyone’s horizons starting in about 1995, I was 44 and had never even had a computer. The sum total of my experience was a year at a newsppaer using a small, boxy Apple Macintoshword-processor-type computer . I forget what model it was, but I loved it. Still, I didn’t get my first computer, an Apple Performa, until 1996.

I’ll never forget that night. It was a cool Spring evening in March. I nervously marched into Office Depot to select and purchase the Performa model I had already picked out, loaded it in the back seat of my car, and drove home with a feeling of escalating anticipation and nervousness. I walked into my apartment that fateful night under a starry sky full of portents. Would life ever be the same again? And more mundanely, how would I ever install all the software and get Internet, and have it all up and running in under a week?

It actually took me three days to get it all set up. I took my time and savored each step that was completed without major glitches. And Macs are easy to set up. Imagine if I had had a Windows machine back then?

When I first saw Netscape 1.2 come up and load a page, I was flabbergasted. I had accessed the Internet at work, but this was at home. I was in awe. I felt something seismic happening in my life as I read news online and started furiously surfing the Web. I never looked back: e-mail, IMing, writing personal essays at online diary sites (blog precursors) reading news on a computer screen instead of in a broadsheet printed newspaper, exploring countless fun and entertaining sites, endless Alta Vista and then Google searches, non-stop learning as new worlds of information opened up in cyberspace. But the best thing of all, it turns out, was the ability to communicate with people all over the country and the world. This would have seemed purely the stuff of science fiction prior to 1995, for me anyway.

There’s now a sense of life pre-Internet and post-Internet. In that other life before I had heard of the World Wide Web (isn’t it an ironic name?), I had much more time to myself. Too much, but I had my books and TV and walks. In the mornings, I’d have breakfast and take time to read the paper or a chapter in a favorite book, on my bed, with soft music in the background before I left for work. There were no fingers flying over keyboards typing e-mails or instant messages, or URLs. No staring at icons on a desktop or playing streaming audio music or mp3 files. No endless hours of online diary, blog, and journal reading and noteleaving.

Life with the Internet, the technology that has most significantly impacted everyone’s life since the end of the last century, has changed daily routines and habits of thinking, reading, and communicating dramatically. Social media and sites such as YouTube, Facebook (Meta), Instagram and Twitter have revolutionized people’s habits and means of communication and also creating vast webs of mid and did-information. Researchers are probing how the Internet has actually altered our neural pathways and changed the way our brains process, store and retrieve information.

I fear, though, that the time spent on the Internet will only increase as we continue to watch movies and listen to music, compulsively use social media and get all our news there, and continue to write e-mails, have Zoom conferences, and chat and talk and buy plane tickets and books and the latest electronic gadgets and devices, and every type and make of consumer product on Amazon — all online, on and on, one or a few clicks does it all. What can’t be bought online? Imagine how that has changed people’s buying and browsing habits.

It’s hard to pull away and take out a book. It’s hard sometimes to get out and take a long walk or get some fresh air. The Internet is all-encompassing. And I don’t think that was the way it was supposed to be. It’s beginning to take on sci-fi and furturistic trappings, especially as virtual reality and the concept of the metaverse increasingly take hold.

Reading on my iPhone screen is so natural now. Most of what I read is on my phone. Picking up a book and reading and making notations seems increasingly novel and deeply “old school” but tell that to my hundreds of books in bookshelves and stacked on the floor.

Communicating via the Internet — it seems like second nature. As using the telephone once was, today we’re using our phones for everything. After all, they are advanced, handheld mini-computers. Where are we going with this? One thing’s for sure. There is no going back.

I’m looking at a matted print I bought at the store a while back and it shows an old roll-top desk in a room with a globe on a stand, an old electric fan, and a light hanging down from the ceiling. Letters are stuffed in the compartments of the desk. Paper! Letters! Those marvelous things we used to get in our non-electronic mailboxes. When is the last time you received a letter in the mail? A handwritten one at that? A timeless feeling and a lost era, that’s what the scene reminds me of.

I remember once when I received a package from a dear friend. In it was a letter written in beautiful calligraphy, with a lustrous blue ink on fine writing paper. I turned the paper over an examined it. It felt so substantial and long-lasting. What a startling thing to behold. A vestige from the past when things were done much more slowly and deliberately. It was truly a great gift.

I miss those days sometimes. But not enough, and that worries me.

The Way We Were


Last updated September 06, 2022


Lady of the Bann September 06, 2022 (edited September 06, 2022)

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My youngest daughter Naomi has been writing letters and has penpals scattered around the world. Real letters. With pretty stickers and drawings and sealed with wax with a flower stamp. She loves getting some back too.
My phone battery completely died when I was away for a couple of days. Fortunately I had important numbers written in a notebook, so I could still meet up with my eldest and she could then let the family and Joe know what had happened. We rely on them so much. Facebook, Google maps,especially when I am travelling. Then banking and shopping. My railcard was on my phone. Fortunately plane boarding passes I had printed out. Ibdidntbhave my iPad mini with me as I can (usually) do everything on my phone.
To think that when Peter bought me a phone back in 1995/6 I refused it as I didn't want to be always on call. Oh how things change!

Oswego Lady of the Bann ⋅ September 07, 2022

Interesting observations and so true. We have become so reliant on the Internet for everything, and it’s greatly enlarged our realms of experience, but it also has left in the dust for most people such old-fashioned pleasures and gifts as writing letters by hand, which I used to do a lot, and having pen pals and correspondences by mail with friends. Now it’s texts and emails, faster and easier but lacking the more personal touch of letters and cards,

Telstar September 06, 2022

There's some good stuff about the internet but a lot of it is foolishness.

And many people actually do think that everything on the internet is true!

Oswego Telstar ⋅ September 07, 2022

I think it’s lack of education and along with that an inability to think critically. So sadly, they have little ability to evaluate information for veracity as well as credibility.

Deleted user Telstar ⋅ September 07, 2022

It's...it's not?

music & dogs & wine September 06, 2022

I thought cell phones would be a fad and refused to get one, until I got in a car accident and wished I had one.

Oswego music & dogs & wine ⋅ September 08, 2022

Today it’s almost inconceivable that we go anywhere without a phone. I really don’t know how we managed in the olden days, but using pay phones was a nightmare!

Deleted user September 07, 2022

I'm glad I'm Gen-X, the bridge generation. The internet came a long in my late 20s, so it wasn't too much of a hurdle for me to learn. Got my computer out of the box, set it all up, installed AOL (and I still use one of my original screen names on AOL for email, thanks much) and was up and going in about 45 minutes. Yet I also had the benefit of learning social skills in my youth. One of the biggest detriments of the internet is that kids just don't learn social skills. Boys don't know how to talk to girls, and vice versa. Boys don't learn how to take rejection, and girls don't know how to deliver it. Don't get me started on things like porn addiction.

Sadder still is that apparently men of all ages have regressed. I'm out of the dating game, but one standard I held at the turn of the century and early Aughts was that while we could exchange emails for a couple of rounds, I wanted to have a phone conversation before even considering meeting someone. I wanted to know if he could carry on a conversation in real time, and yes, he had to have the guts to ask me on a date in real time. I would not go out with anyone who asked me out via email or chat. It struck me as cowardly and socially maladjusted. So much for that, as now that's all guys do.

At any rate, I love that the internet has given us things like ProseBox, and I made some good real-life friends through MySpace back in the day. But it has REALLY harmed dating and relationships, to the point where it is so easy for someone to be duplicitous with it that it is one reason I just won't date. So many stories out there of people cheating and so on. They cheated before, but the internet has made it so much easier. Just no.

Oswego Deleted user ⋅ September 08, 2022

Yes, That’s very true. In the Internet Age people can easily cheat right in the presence of dates or live-in SOs whenever they want. It’s gotta be a weird, weird dating world out there with everyone glued to their phones. Even on dates?? 😳 Not something a contented recluse like me has to be concerned with, thankfully.

My main concern is that my phone, on which I depend for almost everything, has become such a permanent crutch (I hate to even use that word) and fixture in day-to-day life, that every semblance of doing things in a slower, calmer, less-stimulating pre-Internet way, seems to have fallen by the wayside and become archaic. The only time during waking hours that I’m not on the phone/Internet is when I’m relaxing in my rocking chair, squeezed into my tiny balcony at 3 am. The only problem is, and this is a bit scary, I sometimes wonder what to think about. Nothing, maybe??

ConnieK September 07, 2022

I see technology as an ongoing force: grandparents disapproved of the radio, parents said TV will rot our brains, and now this generation says its computers. Is it? Or is it the march of time? Some people utilize all the electronics and some just go for basic stuff, but in the end, it truly is about what we want taking up our time. I think it's good to stop and take stock at times to ask ourselves the question you ask, where is all this going? For me, the answer is time marches on and there is much I will have/have not seen in my lifespan. For you, the answer comes differently perhaps. Life's journey. Who knew?

Oswego ConnieK ⋅ September 08, 2022

Interesting! It is indeed about “what we want taking up our time.” Time is precious, and there’s less and less of it, so I seem to be in a bit of a rush to acquire more good books on religion, spirituality, psychology, parapsychology, physics and the like, end so I up with ever-growing piles of books that I have no idea if I’m going to be able to read.

Maybe I need a course titled, “How to Speed Read Serious Non-Fiction and Retain What You Read in 30 Days.” If that works, it would be the greatest self-help book of all time! 🥹😳☺️

ConnieK Oswego ⋅ September 09, 2022

Oh, honey, I PROMISE you that we will never get to absorb all we want. Many people are content to sit back and let old age take us away, but there are plenty of us still curious about almost every topic under the sun. I do get your sense of urgency, though. Time is short. Priorities rule.

Kristi1971 Oswego ⋅ September 13, 2022

Ryan Holiday has a great system that works for him when remembering what he reads. I say it's a great system that works for him. It's an analog system of taking notes on notecards and filing them in a file system. One file system per book! He is an author, though, so he likes to have everything at his fingertips. But - it helps him remember a lot of things. I do agree that analog helps us remember things way better.

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