Babies & in laws… in Life Lessons

So I have touched a bit on this before but I’ve been thinking about it a lot this evening… I have always wanted to have kids - not ready now but I know I want kids.. the problem I have is with some family so with my mother and sister in law, they are complete jerks to me and only tolerate me because they want me to have kids for them… (MIL has told me she don’t care if something happens to me as long as she gets a grandbaby) thinking about them holding/being around my child just makes me so upset/anxiety… they barely talk to me now… I know they will act 100% fake if I ever have a baby and act like I’m the best and we are BFFS… it just makes me not even want kids because they will be involved…
My mom on the other hand is kind of a pill - she likes to run her mouth and if she isn’t sure of the truth she will make it up… I think she expects to be in the delivery room… (my husband doesn’t want her in there)
I also can sense that I will get crap from both moms on parenting (try to tell me I’m wrong, go behind my back)
I guess I just wonder if anyone else has this issue? Does it go away? Get better or worse?