RAD: Doc T. in These Foolish Things
- Aug. 30, 2020, 8:37 p.m.
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The first of two dates I had on Saturday. This one was for coffee on Saturday morning:
Name: Doc T.
Introduction Platform: Hinge. He’d just gotten on last Saturday and I think I was the first person he’s met on the platform.
Age: 49
Relationship Status: Divorced twice. First marriage produced two sons (aged 8 and 12, I think). Second marriage brought two more boys to his family, but second wife couldn’t make things work with their schedules (???). That was a REALLY long story that I couldn’t really get the whole gist of, but seemed kinds of effed up.
Job: Runs anesthesiologist group. I wonder if he knows Doc D., but I didn’t bring him up!
Lives: In a big, beautiful house in fancy neighborhood
Length of Date: 2 hours
We Did: Coffee on a patio
He Looked: Shorter than I thought (I was wearing tall wedges, but…). Casual short sleeve shirt and shorts. Nice legs. Burly…just like Doc D. Not as handsome as Doc D. Also, not as cocky as Doc D. I’m sorry, I can’t help but compare.
I Looked: Cute, green wrap dress (short skirt), tall wedge sandals, FRESH haircut (came directly from salon…first haircut since Covid, which was super exciting to me)
Convo: Y’all. I hate to say this, but I was bored to tears. Granted, I think he was nervous, but all of the other doctors I’ve dated in my recent past have been funny and charming and INTERESTING! This guy was monotone and…uuggghh. I was just like…hm??? And the reason I was so surprised by his lack of personality was because his texts were suuuuper flirty. Like, us teasing each other about our undies and such. I mean, he was nice enough, but zero personality in person. And that’s when your personality is supposed to SHINE and be showcased, right?
High Point: I mean, he’s a super nice guy (seems like) and super smart, and very successful, but I don’t know that there was even a high point. Maybe that he showed up and didn’t cancel on me? Sad, isn’t it?
Low Point: No sparks.
How It Ended: One of his sons called asking what they were going to do for lunch. We called it a date at that point. Who knows if that was his “escape”?
Chances Are: Sooo. He did ask if he could see me again, but didn’t make a date with me. I said I’d go because I didn’t know if it was just him being shy and nervous. Still have yet to make another date and I’m not sure that I want to go.
Date Rating: C-
Last updated August 30, 2020
The Thirsty Oriental ⋅ August 30, 2020
Hmmm... maybe you're right about the nerves...
bobbi01 ⋅ August 30, 2020
Jeez if you are bored on the first date it isn't a good sign. Maybe one more chance?
Marg ⋅ August 31, 2020
Not sure I would have gone for the second one but maybe it was just nerves.
Deleted user ⋅ August 31, 2020
That's another reason I would shy away from online dating if I ever did decide to date again. I'd need to know if the person could carry a conversation in real time first, which means I would want a phone call before accepting a date, not just texts, and too many people out there seem incapable or unwilling to do that. Anyone can seem charming when they have endless opportunities to backspace and retype.
Jinn ⋅ September 01, 2020
Maybe try one more time. He could just be shy.
plushcreep ⋅ September 02, 2020
This just proves how much easier it is to be flirty over text. Hope your second date got a better score! Reading on...