Counscious Uncoupling in My Life

A whole news story on what this is because Gwenyth Paltrow and soon to be ex husband are calling their divorce this. I like it, actually. I like the conscious decision not to be awful through a process that is awful; the decision to be amicable. I always thought if this is how things went down, we would be amicable. And then I saw how he reacted through our last counseling session and how angry he got and I thought...woah. Maybe not. My dad doesn't think Greg would be amicable and that really surprised me; my brother said the same. I would hope that for the kids' sake, we could do this properly. I'm looking into lawyers, thank you salty :) I don't even know where to start though. My good friend that's been divorced 6 years, apparently used a friend of a friend who did her divorce as a favor; he doesn't usually. Another friend whose custody hearing I testified at a year ago, I HATED her lawyer. I've just reached out to a friend who spends time in family court to see what she has to say, and another acquaintance going through a divorce right now. And beyond that, I guess I look at BBB and try and find someone reputable and meet w/them. It's very daunting. I am absolutely dreading our appointment Monday. I don't know if I should just sort of play along a bit here while I plan or what. I don't like the counselor anymore, I don't feel like it's helping, I don't think things are gonna change. So we keep seeing her every 2 weeks and hear what? You should talk more, you should do x, and we need that forever because we just aren't compatible? Frustrating. I don't know...