.and yes, I mean divorce. so I met with a lawyer Wednesday and got some questions answered...and now I'm even more upset/pissed.
So I know divorces can be expensive...I know it's not just something you can pull out of a bubble gum machine..but dang. $750 up front, $100 a month after that. If he cooperates and gives me his address to serve him with papers, then I wont have to pay a cureators fee. If he doesn't, I have to pay that, which costs anywhere from $200 up. We will have to do "divorce counseling", which we pay for..if we need mediation, we pay for that as well. Sigh. I can pay this for a little while. My fear is this whole thing taking forever...every month I pay another 100. If it's 4-5 months, I'm ok...after that...I'll basically be literally broke. BROKE. After bills I barely make it (only b/c I dont have to pay rent) however this will leave me enough for gas money and that's about that. Which SUCKS when you have a kid. Theres always school pictures, school functions, clothes, shoes, odds and ends they need.
I left the lawyers office in tears.
The lawyer asked me all kinds of questions about me and my home life and my parents life and my brothers life...happy to say he got very limited answers b/c we do NOTHING lol. He asked if the ex had anything he could use against me. Nope, sorry. I dont do drugs, dont drink, dont go out...I work, hang at home on the weekends and I have plenty of people who can witness for my character....the ex however?? Good luck on that.
So anyways, I texted the ex about getting his address. I orginally texted bc kiddos been asking to see him. This pisses me off b/c it was what, 3-4 weeks ago he saw him and made the comment that it'd been "too long", yet here you have the oppurtunity to see him more and you haven't called?? Anyways he wanted to see him at 3:30 Friday...hello!! you know I'm at work. I told him he could swing by and pick up kiddo adn take him to the park...he responded with, he'd be on his motorcycle. Um...so you can't take the truck you had 3 weeks ago? and if you dont have that truck and you bought a cycle isntead, that shows me you ARE NOT THINKING OF YOUR CHILD AND HOW YOU COULD SEE HIM!!! (this all just pisses me off) So I tell him I have a class all day saturday and I can meet him after that or on sunday. he said he had somethings to do and he'd let me know. yeah you're real concerned with trying to see your son.
So I asked if he'd fight me if I filed for divorce. he said no as long as it doesnt involve custody. oh em gee. no judge is gonna say "heres the divorce, i'm gonna ignore that y'all have a kid together". So I avoided all that by just saying the judge would decide all that. So then i tell him i need an address, which at first he was like "no i'll go up to the lawyer myself." (OMG STOP BEING AN A-HOLE!) finally he told me he's moving saturday and sunday, when he gets the address, he'll give it to me. ugh. first off a normal person would have the address of where they are moving, 2nd he could be lieing..3rd, i just have a feeling he'll make this harder for me and cost me more money.
so we shall see where this goes. and how much it'll cost. my parents of course have agreed to help if need be. which i'm grateful for, I just get tired of feeling like i still depend on mommy and daddy for everything. But this has to be done. it's been 6 year since I first left him and I need to get this divorce DONE.
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