Hedgehog's Dilemma. in Other life events.

I've been reading into philosophy a lot recently and came across one called the Hedgehogs dilemma, which was first discussed by Arthur Schopenhauer. It's used to describe a person's issue's with getting too close to someone because they will hurt them with there spines or in human terms our deep seated personal trauma's. In other words, getting too close will get both party's hurt in one way or another.

It's these situations which carve the outcrop of our souls & character. Our inconsistencies and characteristics is what make us this way, its what make's someone turn around and say "you're crazy". Screaming in someone's face is what some people may consider crazy, being lonely and clingy, hurting yourself and having suicidal thoughts with no real path in life. But it's fine to be judgmental because your normal right? because you don't act this way you're normal right? or is your normal just a different level of crazy which has been accepted as the norm?

My point is, we all have spine's and damage which will cause issues, it takes a lot of courage to dig deep within those repressed memories and accept all those time's you have hated yourself for doing something stupid or embarrassing or heartbreaking and then associate them with someone Else's hardship and stress they have been under in their life.

I'll leave you with one more philosophical quote by Schopenhauer about life, I'll let this simmer in your brain and see if you get from it what i got from it.

"The vanity of existence is revealed in the whole form existence assumes: in the infiniteness of time and space contrasted with the finiteness of the individual in both; in the fleeting present as the sole form in which actuality exists; in the contingency and relativity of all things; in continual becoming without being; in continual desire without satisfaction; in the continual frustration of striving of which life consists."

-- Arthur Schopenhauer