Since when changing his mind is bad? in My life

My husband booked swim classes for my little one and I told him to take him but I wanted to go on Saturday. It is a crime? Something bad?
I am supposed to be a helicopter mom according to him. When he goes outside bear foot I bring him his shoes or his jacket when it is cold. Is it bad? I bring him snacks at the park. Is it bad? I guess my husband was neglected badly by his Parents as a child and he wants to reproduce the same things with my little one. Only compliments! He brings me down but I fo not go low like him. Every night they are negative and criticizing me in my own house! Nice. My husband let it happen. Great! I am always the bad guy. I bought my husband when I gave money as downpayment for the house, amazing. I told them I am not responding as it is a trial with no lawyer and not fair. I told them it was my house my husband’s and my little one’s in what order they can choose. I was calm and polite and firm and they did not like it. I am not a doormat. I as m me if they do not like it it is their problems. If you have advice to help, it would be great! Maybe my husband has narcissistic personality disorder. He likes to be the best all the time. It is always about him. He has no flaws never but I am so to speak the bad one. I am sane he is crazy with his parents. The atmosphere of the house is heavy and full of negativity because of them. Asperger and narcissistic is like an explosive cocktail. In 2004 I told my husband his mother did not like me as she was bad. As a coward he called her and she came and insulted me and lied into my face. She called my parents telling them her son broke up with me, which was a lie. My parents came and brought me home. Then we got back together it was a shock and we got married the next year. At church I had like a second thought or a doubt when I had to sign but I went on. It is life no regrets especially concerning my little one. It is life. I am sure from this mess something good will happen. Always good things come from big problems. Let me know if you have any suggestions! Thank you folks!