Pathetic in My life

My husband invites his parents without my agreement and 8 days later he goes to work and leaves me his burden. I did not stay I run errands because they are worst than snakes. He cannot stand his mother who is a pain in the butt. But he decided to bring them in my home as I am a co-owner, I brought with my heritage 240’000$ for the down payment plus 10’000$ from my parents for furniture…my husband works and pays the mortgage but still disrespectful. Asperger or not he has no excuses. My husband tells me all the time we spend to much on food but I shop for food and I cook every day to save money. But he takes 600$ per month from our joint bank account for his own pension…he goes to visit his parents twice for their 70 birthday without asking and it is an expensive country and he lied to me he did not spend much as the just offered a small gift twice to his parents.
But when I want to go to Vietnam to meet my nice, my sister-in-law and see my brother and mom. He did not want to tell me if he would take a ticket and come with us. Instead I took 2 tickets one for me and my son and I went. He even told we could go two weeks before as he had a conference there and then he said no not possible he got mad out of the blue. He in incoherent all the time. He has a membership to a club at work and he goes by himself drinks, invites friends and des not even tell me about it. By chance I discovered he invited a person with his twins. He has an Amazon account and did not tell me about it....just things like that.