I often tip toe around the obvious elephant in the room. Some would say I just want to avoid the hassle of confronting the issue all together. And I sadly would have to agree. Am I wasting my time with this man? Is he future husband material? He's been married and divorced 2 times already.....both women leaving him. I was explained the situation-the first one was the high school sweet heart who changed throughout the years and after 7 years asked for a divorce. The 2nd one he was stupid, she begged him to marry her so she could have health insurance, then left him for another man. These stories are still soley coming from him and I do not know the whole story. Seems so odd---he seems perfect and yet they leave him. Makes me wonder if this fisade of him is real or not.
The other day we were talking on the phone. I explained how I will be doing a lot of chores around the house and he offered to help. I declined immidiatley. He asked me why I never let him help me. I dont let him pay for things, hate him opening car doors, just dont really like him doing anything for me. I suppose I grew up always being taught to never rely on a man. You will never be let down if you rely soley on yourself. I am queen miss independant over here. I have never had any joint bank accounts, car loans, even furniture loans with my partners. Maybe its a control issue? But i think mainly i just alway have in the back of my head "Well if he leaves you/if you leave him it will be a big hassle"----not the best thought to have with someone you love. Maybe a more positive spin on it is im being cautious.
Other than the being divorced 2 times thing, everything else seems good. He has a good job. Own place, hes clean. Mature. Knows how to be loving. He is all sense is a perfect guy. I just have to refuse anymore relationship steps. Being girlfriend/boyfriend and saying I love you is enough. I have decided firmly no more changes for 1 year. Have a strong feeling hes going to ask me to move in with him before then, i just have to be strong and say no.
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