So, I've made myself a profile on OKCupid.com. I made one on Match.com a million years ago, but you had to pay to get any information about anyone, and I tried PlentyofFish.com after that, but...the quality was lacking. What I like about Cupid is that it's totally free, and you answer an endless amount of questions about yourself, about everything from politics and religion to how many kids you want and whether or not you like oral sex. The more questions you answer, the better your match potential. And Cupid, presumably, uses his awesome love god powers to find the perfect match for you, based on percentage. I'm sure there are algorithms and other big math words involved, but I'm just going to go with Cupid. and awesome love god powers.
So five minutes after my profile went live -- my hastily penned profile, I may add -- I had no less than thirty messages.
Most of them said, "Hey, what's up?" or "Wow, you have a great smile," but there were a few guys that actually seemed capable of forming complete statements and might actually be worthy of pursuing. Or allowing them to pursue me, as it were, because the great part about this online dating thing? The guys do all the footwork. I haven't sent ONE first message to anyone, and I've got guys lined up around the block.
I get that this sounds a little conceited, but I assure you it's not. I'm a pretty average looking girl, and I'm definitely not high maintenance, not any smarter than a typical college grad, I don't have a fantastic job, I don't cook, I'm lazy, and I'm a bit of a nerd. Oh, and I don't want to have sex anytime soon. And I'm pretty open about all of this on my profile. Did I mention I just got out of a three year relationship that was almost a marriage? And that he just moved out a week ago?
Yeah, and I tell all the guys that, too. And yet, the messages keep coming.
My point is, ladies, do this. Even if I don't meet anyone. Even if I meet a bunch of frogs, and Prince Charming is really out in the real world (or worse, on Match.com), I'm getting loads of male attention, practically unsolicited. As someone who IS just out of a long-term relationship, and still struggling with missing her ex, and second guessing the decisions she spent MONTHS convincing herself to make...I needed this.
And it may even be selfish of me, talking to all of these guys, when I'm probably not even ready to date anyone seriously. But I'm honest about that, too. I make sure to tell everyone that I'm not really sure what I'm looking for, but that I'm trying to get to know new people, and maybe something awesome will come of it, but I'm keeping my expectations at ground level.
I've only had one date so far (more on that later), but I'm in the process of setting up a second one (with a second suitor), and I really think this in itself is a bold new adventure for me. And I didn't even need to quit my job and run away to a new city (which was totally an option).
I think this is going to be fun. Or a disaster. Either way, hang on to your hats, folks.
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