Mortimer update in Diary

  • Nov. 27, 2018, 5:20 a.m.
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Dave called the vet yesterday and arranged to take Mortimer in on Friday morning. Last night he decided to give her a flea bath as she still had fleas, and she was also filthy and stunk of urine, so we needed to wash that off her before it started to burn her skin.

During the bath, she suddenly went floppy, stopped breathing and passed out unconscious. Dave went into a panic shouting that he had killed his cat. I remembered my first aid training and got him to wrap her in a towel, rubbing her chest. We laid her in the recovery position in a warm place and carried on rubbing her. I was ready to start giving her mouth-to-mouth but eventually she opened her mouth and took some deep gasping breaths. She eventually woke up and walked, very wobbly, over to her food bowl and had something to eat. She then laid down on her bed but kept falling off, lying on the floor and yowling pitifully.

We laid her on a bed of towels underneath the radiator, covered in another towel with another portable radiator next to her, as she was freezing cold. She passed out again, still breathing very shallow but definitely unconscious. I could tell her body was shutting down; I tickled her feet and pinched her toes and got absolutely no reaction. When we were going to bed, I said to Dave I would take Harrison up and he could stay with her for a while. He asked “Why, what can I do for her?” I couldn’t bring myself to tell him that it was time to say goodbye.

He woke up this morning and went down to check on her, and came running back up a minute later, sobbing his heart out. I just got up and hugged him while he cried, he didn’t have to say anything.

I told him not to go to work today, but he wanted to go and “do something normal”. I know how he feels, I was back at work the week after Jay died.

He’s leaving work early though, so we can bury her before it gets dark tonight.

He’s convinced that he killed her with the bath and nothing I say can convince him otherwise. She was very unwell, a bath wouldn’t have affected a healthy cat at all. And, if she had made it to Fridy, I reckon the vet would have recommended euthanasia anyway.

Poor Dave, he’s had her for 16 years since she was a kitten. I reckon he’ll be giving Harriet lots of love and cuddles tonight, Mortimer was her sister in all but blood, there’s only a few weeks age difference between them.


Seacláid November 27, 2018

This is so sad, but it does sound like it was her time to go. I hope he doesn’t blame himself or anyone else for too long. xo

Waterfire November 27, 2018

Oh I'm sorry, how awful. There was nothing he could do, you're right.

Odd Socks November 27, 2018

:( xx

wintergrey November 27, 2018

I'm so sorry. It's never a good time to lose a pet, but it sounds like she had a good long life with Dave. x

Perpetually Plump November 27, 2018

Absolutely heart breaking to lose a pet! I know my time with my girl puppers is drawing to an end, and it makes me so, so sad to think that my time with her is so limited.
I wish you could convince Dave he did not kill her. 16 is old! That's an old cat! And like you said, she was unwell. Grief is so silly sometimes.

Babe In Toyland November 27, 2018

I'm so sorry. Give Dave a big hug from me. x

history of love November 27, 2018

hugs to all of you. Very sad but at least she is at peace now.
x

Swanny November 27, 2018

Our Vet told us that cat's are very good at hiding their symptoms until they simply can't any more, then they decline quite quickly. By the time we notice it's often too late for medical intervention. We felt quite guilty too because we felt we didn't act quickly enough for our poor cat until the Vet gave us this advice. The best we can hope for is to give them a loving warm home filled with lots of affection & safety and it sounds like Dave did that for 16 years. Am sure he'll come to realize that in time. Poor Dave, sending love x

Bomb Shell Swanny ⋅ November 28, 2018

Yes it’s a survival trait, they don’t want to appear weak or vulnerable to predators. He is still blaming himself but also starting to come round to the idea that it was just her time to go.

Deleted user November 27, 2018

Oh Dave :( Im glad he has you to comfort him.

Camdengirl November 28, 2018

Oh poor Dave.

Canadian Lass November 28, 2018

I know these feels all to well :(
hugs to you all

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