last week, I discovered that a childhood friend of mine passed away in June. T. Car was 25. she has a one year old son. I don’t know how she died.
she and I hadn’t kept in touch or anything. the friendship didn’t end on any bad terms, our lives just went in two very opposite directions. but I followed her on social media and I loved seeing her pictures of her and her family.
when I was eight, my mom remarried and we moved into a new house in a recently built neighborhood. two girls my age also lived on that street. T. Car was my next door neighbor and Kirty lived five or six houses down the street. it was the first time I had neighbors my age. at first, I was afraid they wouldn’t like me. that they’d bully me or ignore me. tv and movies I’d watched had depicted new kids as bullied and unwelcome. I didn’t get that, though.
instead, I had instant friends.
there was also a boy across the street from my house, K.A. he was thirteen, and we were all eight. but he still hung out with us quite a bit when we’d be outside riding bikes, rollerblading, playing basketball. we were a group. the kids of AT Court. we had a lot of fun growing as kids together. learning the basics about friendships and social interaction and life.
T. Car, Kirty and I spent most every day together until we started junior high (sixth grade from where I’m from). at that point, they were starting to be treated as the beautiful girls they were, and I was mulling around trying to find my place because the beautiful people wasn’t it. luckily, even starting public junior high, I didn’t get bullied much, if at all. but still, we stopped hanging out even though we were all still neighbors.
when I was thirteen, I had back surgery for scoliosis. during my recovery, T. Car came to visit me and told me she was going to be having the same surgery. she brought me a get well gift. it was really a nice thing to do even though we weren’t friends anymore.
I think eventually both Kirty and T. Car moved from AT Court before I did when I was eighteen.
at some point in time, T. Car and K.A. met again as adults and fell in love. they had a baby together. she would always post pictures of her family and write beautiful dedications to them. I thought theirs was such a sweet love story. I’m heartbroken for K.A. and their baby.
you never really think about who you think this kind of thing could or would happen to. but I honestly never would have thought dying young would happen to her. even though we haven’t spoken in a long time, its still hard to comprehend that she’s gone.
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