Drama? Really? in Day by Day
- March 20, 2017, 2:32 p.m.
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I’m putting the brother entries on private. Last night I made a comment on someone’s entry about my personal preference based on things I’ve seen. I received a rather defensive reply. I responded that I’d not used the word “you” and that my observation wasn’t meant to be personal. The reply was that it was too personal and I thought I was better, and a couple of other snide comments. I deleted my comment and walked away. She knows there’s been a death in the family and that I’m worried about my seriously ill brother. I just don’t have time for her drama over a difference of opinion. It’s petty.
Gypsywynd and I differ in our viewpoints on telemarketers, but she didn’t take it personally and now when either of us mentions telemarketing, we just kind of snicker together. It’s sort of become an inside joke between us.
I come here for the sisterhood. For the record, I don’t think I’m better than anyone else and if you’re concerned because you imagine I have great wealth, don’t be. I’m comfortable, but I’m not wealthy. And for the record, you should know I grew up around wealthy people and most of them are self-centered and unkind, so do NOT feel inferior to others. We all die in the end, ya know?
I don’t do cat fights. Ever. The best way to lose my friendship is to go hormonal on me. I’m not going to agree 100% with you on everything and I don’t expect you to agree 100% with me on everything. That would be creepy. I love online journals BECAUSE we are all a bit different. I might learn about a different country or live vicariously through you, experiencing the joy of being a grandparent, which will never happen in my life. You might mention something you bought that interests me, or a book you read, or your job struggles or whatever. I hope you get the same from me.
But if you want to turn into a Mean Girl, move on. THAT does NOT interest me in the least.
End of Statement.
GypsyWynd ⋅ March 20, 2017
Amen!!
Telemarketing. Terrible job. I was not proud of that job, and got a little defensive. Glad we worked it out. :-)
Being mean is a waste of time.
ConnieK GypsyWynd ⋅ March 20, 2017
I didn't think you were being defensive. We had a great back and forth with no animosity at all. :)
Flyte ⋅ March 20, 2017
Sometimes we take things all wrong in our notes. I know you and I had a back and forth about a note that was written because I had taken it to say things that it didn't say. But neither of us got mad and I understood what you were saying to me once a reply explained it. I hate drama.
ConnieK Flyte ⋅ March 20, 2017
I don't even remember that! LOL! If I'm upset with someone, I say it straight up: "Flyte, I'm upset because you said thus and such and it hurt my feelings." That way, you can say, "ConnieK, you misconstrued." Then I can say, "Oh. Okay. I interpreted wrong." That is MUCH better than saying, "You hurt my feelings so now I'm going to hurt your feelings and then I'm going to stick with my interpretation regardless of your clarification." The first allows open communication. The latter is continuing a grudge, I think. Regardless, it is over, I think. :)
Ferret Mom ⋅ March 20, 2017
I am sorry you have so much going on. I got behind on bookmarks last week and apparently i lissed out on a lot.
ConnieK Ferret Mom ⋅ March 20, 2017
Here it is in a nutshell: older brother passed away unexpectedly and younger brother is in the hospital with several clots in major arteries. He's in great pain, physically and emotionally. My heart hurts for him.
QueenSuzu ⋅ March 21, 2017
How horrible and rude for what that person said to you. I guess they never heard of, "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything". I think you are a pretty neat person, have never gotten the impression that you thought you were better than anyone and I think, no I KNOW that if we met in real life, we would be friends, heck, we are friends here!
ConnieK QueenSuzu ⋅ March 21, 2017
It's okay. She is convinced I was rude to her first and offered up an apology that actually turned everything back on me. LOL!