There’s a weird contradiction in my relationship with Sarah that I’d like to point out. It’s not necessarily something that bothers me, jut something I’ve noticed and would like to write about.
First, I’m not sure I’ve specifically ever said that Sarah is bisexual. I might have, but I just don’t feel like going through previous entries to see for sure. She and I are both openly bi, and it’s actually kind of nice sharing that in common with her. I like that I can acknowledge my attraction to men and she can acknowledge her attraction to women without it being a big deal.
She will frequently point out women that she finds attractive, and in every single case they are small and thin. She very much has a type when it comes to girls, and it seems like it’s the smaller the better. I have no problem with that of course, it’s just interesting to note.
Considering that I’m dating Sarah, it’s probably no surprise that my type is very different. I’m attracted to bigger women. Not just overweight women, but I specifically prefer very obese. I know there is a phrase for this called “chubby chaser” although I’ve always found that a little weird and I’ve never used it to describe myself.
Sarah appreciates that, of course. I presume she sees it as a confirmation that I’m attracted to her. And whenever I comment about finding a 400+ pound women to be sexy, she is always very supportive to hear about my tastes. But whenever I talk about finding a woman who is not quite as big attractive, she seems to shut down and not want to hear it.
The funny thing is that I never talk about classically beautiful women. The traditional model-type woman who is thin and in shape has never interested me. Even though Sarah will talk about being attracted to this type of women, I am not. I think it’s safe to say that any woman under 250 pounds is not attractive to me.
And even though I do prefer very large 400+ pound women, and am certainly also attracted to women who fall into the 250 - 400 pound range. And it’s when I talk about being attracted to women who are in the lower end of that range that Sarah seems to be offended. To her, I can really only be attracted to women that are approximately her size or bigger.
It’s not a huge deal, considering especially that women that are her size are who I am most attracted to, but I can’t help but notice the contradiction. She can talk about how beautiful a 120 pound woman is, but I can’t even talk about finding a woman attractive who is twice that size.
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