Yesterday was kind of a test for me. Both in the sense that I was testing myself because I wasn’t sure what it would be like until I did it, and in the sense that Sarah was testing me because she wanted to see how I handled it. It was an event with my company where we could bring our significant others, and it was the first time I would really be introducing Sarah as my girlfriend to people I know.
I know that doesn’t sound like a big deal, and in a lot of ways it isn’t. But she had made such an issue about me being comfortable with dating someone her size. And I think the more we talked about it the more important it became.
I don’t see myself as embarrassed about her in any way. But people can be mean to fat people. It’s one of those groups that is still routinely discriminated against.
And it’s true that Sarah is very big. She’s not just a little overweight. She hasn’t told me her weight, because she says she doesn’t like to focus on the number. But when I told her that I weigh about 180, she responded that if I doubled my weight I still wouldn’t be close to her. I figure that means she is over 400 pounds.
Overall the day went well. Sarah is very social and fit in well with a group of people she had never met before. No one said anything about her weight, and I didn’t expect anyone to. But I do wonder what was said about us behind our backs.
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