I’ve been fighting a lot with Rachel lately and it makes me a little sad because she’s really the most important person in my life after my husband and kids. She and Guy are planning on moving out in the summer and I’m sad to think that I won’t have in the house and part of my daily life. I understand why she wants to move. She is about to finish law school, and both of them are earning decent amounts of money. They want to buy a house of their own.
This morning she asked me if I wanted to catch an afternoon showing of “50 Shades of Grey.” She acknowledged that it was likely a ridiculous movie, but said she thought it might be a fun thing for the two of us to do together. I immediately told her I wasn’t interested. 90% of the reason I responded that way is because I’m genuinely not interested. It looks like a terrible movie based on a terrible book. Not to mention that I’ve never been one to follow these weirdly popular trends, to read those books that everyone else is reading or see the movie based on those books. I was never into Harry Potter, Twilight, Hunger Games, etc. I know this isn’t exactly the same thing, since those are geared towards teenagers, but still. When I see that a series has being “the thing to do” I usually go out of my way not to do it.
But I have to be honest and admit the other 10% of the reason I don’t want to see the movie is my new religious beliefs. I know this movie isn’t exactly porn, but it still seems like doesn’t exactly mesh with my belief system. Jayson and I think more carefully about the movies we see, and we often decide against seeing some R-rated movies just because we don’t need all the swearing and sex.
So when I told Rachel I didn’t want to see it, she immediately started insulting me for letting my religious beliefs take over my life. It seems like a silly argument. I WANT my religious beliefs to take over my life. But I felt I had to defend myself because the biggest reason for not wanting to see the movie had nothing to do with religion.
She was really mean to me about it, and that my biggest complaint. You can tell me you disagree with me, but there’s no need to be mean about it. I told her that and of course she just denies that she’s being mean.
Most of our fights end with me crying and her apologizing. But I told myself I wasn’t going to cry today over this. The result was that she didn’t apologize either. We ended up walking away from each other still angry.
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