Omg, I did not realize I have been writing less than once a month! Well in reference to last entry about the miscarriage thing, I still don’t know exactly what it was/wasn’t. Even though I probably should’ve I didn’t go to the Dr. or anything so it’s hard to know if it was a miscarriage or just a really intense period. I was a little down after the whole ordeal, but doing better now.
In other news, there’s been some baby mama drama. Well not really, just things have happened that are really annoying. Ok, so when Zion was sent to live with us in June he came with basically nothing. Pretty much just the stuff we had already provided for him, well minus quite a few clothing items (that when we asked him, “what happened to those jeans/shirts/etc we got you at the beginning of the school year?” he says him mom gave it to his younger brother because he had “outgrown” them.. umm no, we purposely bought everything too big so he could wear them longer.. he is very small.. he has not outgrown anything, she just kept them so she wouldn’t have to buy for the other two brother…). Anyways, as I think I said before she pays NO child support. NONE. zip, zilch nada. Okay.. Fine. So as it’s gotten slightly colder here in South Georgia, and by cold I mean like 50’s (which is damn cold to me), we’ve had to get him a whole new winter wardrobe. Anyways, he went to visit his mom for Thanksgiving. We made sure to document all the clothes we packed. So when he comes back and I’m doing a quick inventory of his stuff, I see his new nike shirt I just got him is missing and then I notice two new fruit of the loom tees packed in there.
O_o really? I mean really? You sent him down here with NO clothes, you don’t send us a DIME, and then after 6 months the only thing you can provide are two plain $2.00 Tee’s??? That are in leu of the Nike shirt that cost 7 times that amount. Why bother? So you can pat yourself on the back to look like you actually provided for your son? If she was considerate she should’ve ASKED me if there’s anything he needed right now.. And I could have gladly told her yes, socks. Or a winter coat. But no, she takes it upon her self to throw in some bullshit that is not even suitable for school.
I’m no snob, but I’m not sending my kids off to school dressed in a plain black fruit of the loom T-shirt and pants. No. I was super annoyed about the whole thing. And I keep picturing his younger brother walking around in that Nike shirt we just bought him.
And I dont know if I mentioned before but in the bullshit parenting agreement that Bradley signed (without me reading it beforehand). She said they get to claim him on their taxes this year… Da fuq!?? We got him in June. WE have had him longer. SHE doesn’t give us a dime. BUT the first part of the year Bradley sent her money. So why should she get to claim him?? When he came here, it was like having a newborn. We had to start from scratch because he came with nothing, no clothes, not even a toothbrush.
The whole thing is so annoying. And him going to see them for thanksgiving was annoying too. Where I live, kids get a WHOLE WEEK off of school. So really, he was out of school from that Friday afternoon, until the following Sunday. Almost a week and a half. First, she didn’t think they were going to come get him for the week.. Then they thought they would just come for the weekend (they live in Atlanta three hours away.). So on Thursday NIGHT, the night before there last day of school before break, she calls me to say they will be coming tomorrow to get him for the week. Wow, really? Thanks for the notice. Good thing we didn’t plan anything.
I really hate to complain, because she is a nice person and I really her husband (aka Zion’s step-dad). But I mean, she needs to be more considerate. Like for one, why am I the point of contact? She and Bradley are completely civil and on good terms, there is no problem between the two of them. So why is she in constant contact with me? Why is she hassling me about getting Zion on insurance? Yes I’m his step mom and I take care of him just as I do Cassidy, BUT Bradley should be the one dealing with all of this.. NOT me.
Sigh
And don’t get me started on Christmas. We’re getting fucked over there too. Every Christmas we had him and went over and beyond to compensate for his lackluster Christmas with his mom. Last Christmas he asked us where the toys were coming from .. and I’m like .. umm the store? And he’s like “oh because last Christmas I had to stand in line at the Salvation Army for three hours with my mom but we got three big garbage bags full of toys…“
What?
Are you joking??? The hell. Who does that? And I mean, if you’re in need, fine. But why go with your three kids in tow??
Anyway, we knew his Christmas’ were subpar, so we did everything we could to make it special.. but that was when we didn’t have custody. Now we do. He’s supposed to be going to Atlanta for Christmas and it shouldn’t be up to us to provide a spectacular Christmas just because she won’t.
Oh and one more thing that annoyed me. Back when we would get Zion on Thanksgiving, we would go ahead and celebrate his b-day then (it’s December 14th). While his mom had him, they celebrated another son’s birthday, but not his. Maybe she’ll celebrate it whenever she sees him again. But I still thought that was rude/thoughtless. Right now, they don’t know when/if he’s even coming up there for Christmas. She said they’ll probably just come down here for a weekend. They get almost three weeks off of school. It’s really sad.
Ok enough bitching about that.
I don’t really have much else to add. Thanksgiving was good. I made all the food (well except for the meat, I did all the sides and dessert) for the first time ever. My mom was going to, but she randomly decided to get a tummy tuck and breast augmentation at the last minute, two days before Thanksgiving. So obviously she couldn’t cook. It is really weird that my mom did all that. When I got a tummy tuck years ago she was completely against it. Then again, she was a raging alcoholic back then too. But, this January will be three years sober for her and she has been working hard trying to get in shape so I’m happy that she did this for herself. Happy and jealous! So anyways, Thanksgiving was good, it was just me, Bradley, Cassidy, and my parents. My oldest brother just moved to California to be an “actor” hah, and my other brother lives in Tampa, and my little brother is still in Scotland for physical therapy school, so it was weird and empty without them being there. I really missed them a lot.
This coming weekend we are going to my hometown in South Carolina for my uncle’s wedding and the family Christmas party. I am really excited about it. If you recall, my last trip to SC this summer was a major bust when my cousin/bff/old roommate decided not to see me. Even though she was the whole reason I went there. Anyways, so maybe I’ll be seeing her who knows. But, I’m excited for my extended family to meet Bradley.
Tonight we have the soccer party for cassidy’s team that I coached. I really really enjoyed coaching. Even though my time was stretched thin, it was fun.
School is almost over for the semester!!! One year of dietetics school down, one more to go. I was hoping to get straight A’s again, but I just bombed one of my finals so it looks like it’ll be 3 A’s and a B.
Okay I gotta run. Here are a few pics, most of them are from FB.
This is from my 28th birthday compared to my 18th birthday!
Me, Bradley, Cassidy, and Callie on Thanksgiving at my parents:
Me, my dad, and cassidy:
Callie in front of our Christmas tree!
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