January 17, 2022. I got home from work at 6am. It was a Monday. I hadn’t been feeling well, and kept saying that it was because my period was supposed to start on January 16, the only different symptom I had was my breasts hurt, bad. I said it was because it was cold and I have my nipples pierced. My mom kept joking that I was pregnant. I kept saying absolutely not. My boyfriend and I had only been together 2 months, we were still trying to get to know each other … anyway, I took a pregnancy test when I got home. He was still asleep. I was texting my mom that my period didn’t start the day before when it was supposed to. I had taken a test on the Wednesday before and it was negative. I didn’t think it would be positive at all!!! I took one of the line tests, and when I looked over on the side of the bathtub where I had the stick laying and it almost immediately turned positive, I broke down in tears. I immediately was terrified and didn’t know if I believed it. So I took a digital test as well. It popped positive almost immediately as well. I texted my mom and was like omg omg omg. I asked her what I was supposed to do? She told me to go wake up my boyfriend and tell him.
I was so scared that he was going to be mad and leave. Like I said, we had only been together 2 months. He was 42 years old. He had 3 grown boys, one of which also had a baby on the way at the time. I woke him up and made him come to the living room where I had the tests and showed him and he just said “okay” haha! I was like uhhh are you mad? and he was like nope!
We figured out I was about 3.5-4 weeks at the time, based off of my last period. I waited for my OB office to open and called and made my first appointment … it was on my birthday, February 17! I was so excited. I joined all of the September due date groups on facebook and started doing a lot of googling. I found the SneakPeak tests and told my mom and boyfriend that I wanted to do it because I am a very impatient human being and wanted to know as soon as we could what the baby was! I figured it would be a boy, because I wanted a girl so bad and he already had 3 boys. You can’t do SneakPeak until 7ish weeks, but bet your ass I had it ordered and ready to go as soon as I hit 7 weeks!
I got the email a few days after I sent the blood test off, it actually came about 10 minutes after I got to work that night. So I called my boyfriend and had him come to the PD so we could open the email together, again, fully expecting it to be BLUE! When we saw the pink I burst into tears!!! We facetimed my mom at work and told her, of course she cried … my brother had just had a little boy a year prior and she wanted us to have a girl! He also called his boys and told them that not only was he having another baby, but they were getting a little sister. They didn’t know I was pregnant up to that point! I was terrified that they were going to be mad, but they are the best big brothers in the entire world!
I had a very uneventful pregnancy. I was scared I’d have Gestational Diabetes because I am obese, but I passed both my glucose tests with flying colors. No pre-eclampsia, nothing! My doctor actually said that she couldn’t have asked for a more perfect healthy pregnancy. I craved goldfish crackers, grape uncrustables, and strawberry fanta the entire time I was pregnant.
My due date was September 27, 2022. My dads birthday is September 3rd and my grandma’s is September 21st. We suspected we’d have a September baby, and I prayed that she would come on either my dad or my grandma’s birthday. Dad’s birthday rolled around, and nothing. No braxton hicks, no leaking amniotic fluid, nothing. I remember asking my doctor at my first appointment after my dads birthday if she would induce me on September 21st so my baby and my grandma could share a birthday, and it was only 6 days before my actual due date. She told me no!!!! She said she wasn’t on call that day, and since there were no complications thus far in my pregnancy we were going to wait. I never once went to the hospital for false labor. I never felt braxton hicks, or had any signs of labor coming on. 2 weeks before my due date she said that she wanted to go ahead and schedule an induction. I again asked for the 21st and got told no again. My doctor was on call on September 27th and she wanted to deliver me. So she scheduled me to go in at 8pm on September 26th and start the process, with suspected delivery date of September 27th.
September 26th finally rolled around. My mom is a travel nurse and was working in Memphis at the time about 2 hours from here. She took a week and a half off so she could be here for us. They still weren’t letting many people in to the hospital because of Covid, so it was only me, my mom, and my boyfriend. They took me to my favorite restaurant, Olive Garden, before we went to the hospital and it was delicious.
We got to the hospital around 730 and they told me to go on up and get checked in and get paperwork done and all the fun stuff. Due to never having any signs of labor, my doctor had never even checked for dilation. That was an experience for the first time! I was not dilated at all (at 39 weeks 6 days pregnant) They gave me my first round of cytotic (I’m not sure the spelling) .. Some pill thing they put in your cervix to thin you out and start dilating you. Said that I would get a new dose every 4? hours. They also told me that I would start experiencing pain and when I did to let them know and they’d get me meds. After 2 rounds of the cytotic, I started asking for meds. They gave me stadol, I had never had that before, and they told me that it was going to make me feel drunk and sleepy. They weren’t lying. After my first dose of stadol, most of the rest of the day is kind of blurry. My doctor came in on the morning of the 27th and because I wasn’t making any progress with the meds I was getting, she wanted to start Pitocin. I was fine with that, I was ready to meet my baby! I was hooked up to pitocin around 9a … around 1145 she decided that she wanted to go ahead and get my epidural and break my water so they could turn the pitocin up because I still wasn’t dialting. I was barely a 1.
The epidural experience was awful. I don’t know what to equate that pain to, but if I never feel it again I’ll be happy. My mom said that they went thru 4 kits, and that I was poked over 25 times when she stopped counting. They had to give me another dose of stadol to relax me long enough to get the epidural to take. I passed back out.
The next thing that I remeber, was the nurse coming in and saying that the babys heart rate was dropping and they wanted me to turn on my side. Not being able to feel your legs and trying to turn was another experience. They had me turn 3-4 times and then I remember my doctor coming in and saying that she wasn’t happy with how many times the baby’s HR dropped and that it wasn’t coming back up the way she’d like and asked if I was okay with going to c-section, and stressed that the baby needed to come out ASAP. I remember asking her if my mom could also be in there with my boyfriend. I was shocked when she told me yes! It meant more to me than I can ever express that my mom also got to be with us when she was born. We went back to the OR around 445, and at 510pm, the most perfect 8lb 2oz 21 inches long human being was pulled from my stomach. She said the reason I never dilated was because her umbilical cord was wrapped around her shoulders.
I’ll never forgot the first time I saw my little sumo wrestler looking baby girl. I immediately fell in love with her. It’s truly a feeling that words can not describe.
The last 16 months with her have been the absolute best 16 months of my entire life. I never imagined this life for myself. I never saw myself having children and being a mother. I can honestly say that I would not trade this life for anything else in this world.
I wanted to share a photo from the hospital of my sweet girl. I’m not worried about her newborn photos being on my blog, as she doesn’t look like a newborn anymore, obviously. I haven’t decided if I will share any current photos of her yet … but I might one day.
Meet Mila!
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