I am starting to lose hope! I am starting to believe I was not meant for the generation. I am a 25 year old women, with a career, strong morals, mature and what I believe to be a decent personality (or I have been told). Yet I seem to not find myself a suitable partner and I am not talking about rich or good looking but someone who atleast has their shit together. Has a stable job, makes good decisions, is not in it for the sex, and just decent all around. I seem to attract the total opposite! Yet, when a guy finally talks to me who has potential they always start with ” I have always been interested in you. “. To my fucking luck! So I finally put myself out there and asked them ” what stopped you?” they respond with ” you seem mature and like you had things going for you”. WOW seriously a girl had shit going for her and that is a turn off! Im so done with people my age!!! Women always have to meet these unrealtistic standards… be pretty but not wear make up, be confident but not to cocky, stay skinny but not to skinny because men like a thick ass, have a career but not a career that demands to much or is demasculating, etc. Where are the standard for mean? Not so say their arent any but compare the list and we have them beat.
I came across a post the other day saying ” would you let your baby dad play video games while your in labor at the hospital?” and I saw so many women say this was okay as long as he was still paying attention to her needs. And it dawned on me… WE SETTLE. By settling we let them mistreat us and devalue us. I am sorry to say that most that responded saying it was okay were African American women. So its okay that a women struggles through so many changes physically, emotionally, and mentally alone while pregnant. Because lets be honest a man can be the most present man thoughout your pregnancy but at the end of the day they will never know how much 10mins of fun has cost you. They will never have to feel back pain, swollen pain, watch stretch marks happen knowing they will be a bitch to go away, gain an outragious amount of weight, labor pains, a bunch of people taking a look at your privates, a kneedle going into you back 12in long, taring, reconstructing, etc. Yet they cant sacrifice few days in a hospital with no video games. I am sorry for women who settle because if that were me… I want him to see everything I was going through. I want him to hear my pain and be there with out me asking. I want him to hear medical instructions and options that maybe I am too in pain to hear or understand. I want him to see and hear the baby on the monitors. I want him to be my advocate in my most volnerable time. I want him to see everything I am going through to bring a piece of him into this world. I want him to BE PRESENT. A women should not settle for a man who cannot give her this.
And I will not SETTLE!!!
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