I spent the night with Liz last night and this morning we were talking a bit about the idea for us to have our own commitment ceremony. We were sitting on her couch and she was getting a little upset with me that I hadn't yet mentioned the idea to my wife. After repeatedly encouraging me to do it, and me agreeing that I would, she seemed to still not believe me. Probably because I've already promised to do it for weeks now. Then she suggested just asking my wife herself.
Before I could even really respond, she had her phone in her hands and was texting my wife. She showed me the text only after she hit send. It said, "I'd like to have a commitment ceremony of my own with Red. How would you feel about that?" I don't think I've mentioned before that "Red" is the nickname I've been using in order to avoid my female name. I was a little surprised that she did that, but also eager to see how my wife would respond.
The text came back and said, "Is this between you and me or is he there with you?" Liz typed back, "This is a private conversation between you and me" and then showed me her screen. I guess it wasn't really private at all.
I was curious what she would say that she didn't want me to see, and happy to be in the position where she would be talking freely with Liz and not worried about my reaction. The two of them have just began developing a friendship and it's really nice to see.
She wrote back quickly: "I really think you should do that." And then: "I actually feel a little guilty that I'm 'the wife' and you're the other woman because I feel like he loves both of us equally."
I almost wanted to cry when I read that. There couldn't have been a better response.
Liz hit send on another message and then showed it to me. "I really want to exchange rings with him. Are you OK with that?"
It was an interesting question because Liz and I had never talked about that and my wife I and don't wear wedding rings. That decision had nothing to do with polyamory, we just decided years ago we didn't want to bother with him. I was going to ask Liz about that when her phone buzzed a new message.
My wife said "That's a sweet idea. Something that would just for you two since we don't wear rings."
My thoughts exactly.
Liz typed again. Her message, "Do me a favor? Suggest to him that he propose to me and give me a ring. Don't let him know it was my idea!"
She responded, "I will do that. Sounds like fun! It's like we have our own little secret."
Part of me feels sneaky and mischievous, but part of me can't wait to get home tonight and see if my wife actually suggests it.
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