My husband and I went on a little road trip yesterday. We stopped at a gas station to pee. We walked inside and I asked for the restroom key and the woman behind the counter handed me the mens room key. Not surprising to me anymore since I am very comfortable that I pass as a man these days. But then she help up the key to the womens room and, speaking to my husband, said, "Ma'am? Do you need the key too?"
It was an exciting moment for him because even though he cross dresses in public all the time, this may have been the first time a complete stranger has referred to him as female. He didn't speak at all because his voice would have ruined it, but he smiled and nodded and took the key.
As we walked out to the restroom, I asked him if that felt good and he enthusiastically agreed. He said he wished more people would see him as female.
I was sitting there peeing when it dawned on me that maybe he was referring to me. When we got back in the car, I asked him if he wanted me to use female pronouns for him. We've had this conversation before and I got a vague non-committal answer from him last time, which was why I stuck with male pronouns. Instead of answering me directly, he responded that after seeing how successful I have been with my transition, he is realizing that he may also want to transition.
I was quite surprised by this. All along he has stated that he is male and just likes to cross dress. He seemed to be thinking about what to say next so I didn't respond at all. I didn't want to interrupt his thought process. After a bit of silence, he said that he thinks he needs to just admit to himself and the world that he is trans.
I wanted to say something immediately so he wouldn't think I was bothered by anything he was saying, so I responded, "So I'll definitely start using female pronouns for you then."
To not be overly confusing, I started this entry talking about "my husband" and using male pronouns. But from here on out I will be changing that. I now have a wife. Not that I should be making this all about me, but considering that I identify as male, having a wife instead of a husband eliminates some confusion.
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