i am having a real moral dilemma in my brain and i need someone to help me sort it out. so let me explain:
so i used to have a profile on match.com. i barely ever checked it but one day i did and saw that a guy i recognize from work had looked at my profile. i thought this was interesting because he is married. i don't think of much of it and carry on. a few weeks later, a person who is friends with us both tells me how this guy told him how i never contacted him after he viewed my profile and was sort of wondering about it. he then goes on to explain that this guy's wife has recently told him that she is actually gay and has met someone. i've thought this guy was attractive but ya know, off limits because of the marriage thing. so we end up exchanging some messages but i had already cancelled my membership and it was about to expire. so i gave him my number and we have been texting pretty regularly. i did go out to dinner with him once. but i felt that this whole part of his life is just too new and he needs some time to deal with it before attempting to jump into something with a new person. he told me they have been having problems for a while and he was very unhappy. also, i should mention they have a 2 year old daughter. they still live together, though he is supposedly looking for his own place. his comment to me regarding getting a divorce is that for .. a couple reasons.. they will actually get divorced when they "have to". this makes me feel a little.. skeptical.
i have a hard time being ok with getting involved with someone who is married. what happens when the wife's new relationship falls apart and she comes running back to him? he insists its over, but i just don't want to get involved in the mess.
but at the same time, he is a nice guy.. from what i can tell. there is an attraction. i just don't know what to do. is it morally wrong to get involved in any way with him? here is where my big issue is: would it be adultery? if so, i wouldn't be able to live with myself. thoughts?
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