I talked about a few of the downsides of the polyamorous lifestyle but the upsides are just so fucking awesome!
I have met so many great people over the years. Many I would likely have never even met if I was monogamous because I was already with someone during the times I met those people.
The most recent being my amazing boyfriend. I’m not even sure I can accurately put into words how I feel about that man. He contributes such a large portion to my happiness. My relationship with him is hands down the happiest, healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in. Which scared me at first. And maybe sometimes still. He is my best friend!! We have so much in common it’s almost unbelievable. We have very similar personalities (which somehow ends up being a good thing for us), and sense of humor. We can be goofy together and neither of us gets tired of it or annoyed with the other (that I know of LOL). That’s a big one for me. I’ve never really had that before and totally underestimated how meaningful it would be to me. Just being able to be my true self and not have to worry about judgement or consequence. He supports me like no other which is something I have wanted for a very long time. He’s the sweetest as well. I wake up every morning looking for that “Good morning, babe” text. I don’t get that as often now because schedules have changed and alot of times I’m up before him. But now I get to send those texts for a while. :)
He is a safe space for me. When I am in his arms nothing else exists, let alone matters. I know that can potentially be a bad thing, but I don’t think it is here. I don’t get to see him as often as I used to, and that is temporary. But I look forward everyday to the moment I get to just lay my head on his chest and listen to his heart beat. (in a totally creepy way hahaha). Just his skin touching mine soothes me. The way he smells, whether he’s wearing the smell goods or not. The way he looks at me when I’m laying on him. It’s all so perfect and it’s just way beyond NRE. 4 years in and sometimes it feels like that has never worn off though. Even when we are doing nothing together I get butterflies when he looks at me. He makes me feel so beautiful and the right look from him gets me all.......tingly. I won’t get into the quality of our sex life together on here but LAWD. That is also the healthiest of my life ;)
I am still totally head over heels in love with him, and if I was monogamous I’d have never had the opportunity to spend this time with him. Hoping for the rest of my life, as long as it stays happy and healthy for us both. <3
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