Can't tell anymore if my mom is right in Rants

Sometimes I feel resentment at having to parent my parent. As lovely as she is, my Mom is clueless about emotional conversation and still sees me as a helpless child. How is she not ashamed to say that she expects me to live with her all her life in the same breath that she says she can’t even think of compromising so we can live together peacefully? Why do I have to fight with her on the smallest of things, like how to dress my body and what to eat? I am 28! Not 8! I can hardly go to sleep because I am so distressed that we had a fight but she’s just snoring away. What does this say about my potential co dependency? Am I being selfish by refusing to
what? Do everything as exactly she does? I do agree that shared space have mutual obligations but. Was I being unreasonable by letting out a frustrated scream? I mean she woke me up by yelling about how I left the washing machine open and how that means that I don’t value her stuff. I mean I thought I was living at my home too? How is thay she’s always saying it’s my washing machine, my counter, my … I feel like I am the only one who can make overtures to mend things, otherwise she will just keep up the silent treatment and withdrawal of affection. Charming.