Why I Would Never Date a Single Dad in Refugee from Open Diary Apocalypse

There are a lot of people in American who have children in their late teens and early twenties out of wedlock in this country, and proceed to separate with the other parent and become eligible bachelors/bachelorettes.However, I would never consider these people eligible for me.. I have always been taught to be rather pragmatic in terms of dating (the way most Chinese young women are), and even more selective in terms of reproducing, and it seems like dating a single father is a terrible deal (especially for a woman in her young 20s). In my culture, people do not reproduce before marriage and certainly do not marry out of a whim. Women are materialistic and will only marry men with high end jobs. These men are almost always unattached men in their late twenties to early thirties (marrying women about three years younger). Marriages are carefully calculated, and only done when men have enough money to be able to afford a family and with approval from both sides. After a couple years, they decide to have children. Even if the marriage has conflict, divorce is unlikely and people usually suck it up. Compared to the successful child-free bachelor,a single father (especially in his twenties),is left with a considerable amount of baggage.He is generally poorer, and he has to support his young child/children for fifteen to twenty-five, to perhaps thirty more years (in this abysmal economy), until that child is fully independent. The child will always have the upper hand in coersion over the father compared to me (rightfully so).To the child, I will perpetually be the “evil step-mom”, lower in rank compared to the child’s birth mother, who will constantly be in the picture. When I reproduce with the father, the father will not be able to use all of his resources toward his new family, a decent fraction,funneled to the mother of the first born. And I will never care about the kid that is not mine, as much as I care about my own kid… in fact I would probably harbor perpetual jealousy and resentment over this outsider, and wish that the child simply did not exist. Vice versa, the child would probably feel basically the same way about me, wishing his/her parents were a pair instead of having a fragmented disorderly family. As a young woman in my early twenties, I am a very selfish person, and perhaps rightfully so, because twenty something year old women (and men for that matter) are supposed to concentrate on making themselves successful in the workforce and securing their own happiness. I am not opposed to becoming the primary breadwinner in my family, but I will not be willing to support somebody else’s child (especially if the mother is still around). There is little room for little ones, especially little ones who do not even belong to you but are leftover evidence from a previous failed relationship. Many people can handle it (these people are “better” people than me), but I would probably get tired of the situation.. I feel this way because single parenting is pretty uncommon in my culture. I never grew up seeing family members divorcing, and people only became single parents in their 40s to 50s when their children were grown up and their spouses died from some kind of illness. I have never met an Asian American under the age of 45 who was a single parent because most people do not die before middle age. If I die in middle age (or my spouse does), because people are unlikely to do so before then, single parenthood may be necessary. But for now, I don’t see the appeal.