so family day, i look forward to today, and i have been really good and the weight loss plan has got me down to 15 stone. been yonks since i have been this weight. since i have a days worth of calorie left of last week. i am having a free day. and i can eat what i want without calorie counting. it seems to work having a free day, i dont lose weight to fast and i get to eat cake. yeah and since i tend to burn off 6000 steps per average in st andrews, doesnt do me to bad.
my weekend was good i felt relaxed although my friend, who gets the same amount of benefits. has spent all his money and yesterday i vowed not to feed him. i did.
let me explain this one - i once had a time where i would go hungry and i dont want anyone to go thru that eva, however i stock up and have money on a farmsfood card for emergencys. i may spend all my money in two days but i pay off bills in advance, i stock up my farmfoods card, and then stock up on everything i need. i may not have spare money(i get over 200 and my bills have gone up alot) but i dont run out of anything not living day to day as he does. he spends it on celtic tops, taxis and paying people back. he get double money this week and if he comes to me and says i have no food, i refuse to feed him. because he is only paying food, gas and leccie. in the homeless hostel flat. and twenty pounds a month phone bill.
i pay alot more than that, tv, tv liscense, gas, leccie , paid off council tax for this year to save up for working fund and holiday, food , cheap option of getting tObacco, farmfoods card and cat stuff. and i still find time to stock up on things for the week. my freezer still full from last payment, phone bill always high so i pay in advance alot(in weekly sessions so it it not all in one)
you can see why im annoyed, and why i refuse to feed him, i am a soft touch but you know what this girl gonna get tough. i survived on 80 pounds a fornight once and can again. just need to get rid of a few things. but i have been saving up. he gets the same as me and i can do all this and still have money for lunch at subway once a week. WHY CANT HE?
he a really nice bloke but he thinks everyone should look after him, not be responsible. when he gets a new flat, he will put his music up and get kicked out and guess what he really will be stuck. no body will wanna give him a flat, he has to grow up. he is 38 and i am 26. i feel like the adult sometimes. he refuses to play the game. like playing along with authrities rules. and his adhd is no excuse. he can be sensible. i might have grown up too fast(my mums words) howeva im not living day to day anymore i have things in place for emergencys and using my benefit money to ensure i have money and qualifications for my job he pissing it up the wall. yes i dont think he calm enough to work but he can have savings and learn how to handle money. i did a monthly budget he only had to follow, even putting his hash money on the budget but no. and you would think he would want to keep a house.
he is a fab person, thoughtful, nice and a really good friend and i dont wanna see him hit rock bottom where he pisses off everyone. he is getting there. he might need to be left alone like i had to learn but he would just get put in jail for something silly(if he was violent i would not speak to him - summer kiss will understand that) . he is vunerable a bit more than i was i was because he refuses to accept help and thinks he can do everything himself. i did accept help and i am in a fab place.
i dont know i learned the hard way and it worked but not sure if it will be the same for him. stuck inbetween a rock and a hard place. if i refuse to give to feed him a few days day before pay day, am i being cruel. its not anyones fault if he eats all his food (he gets alot of food) and doesnt save up for more?
i get the same as him and i manage it, even with paying alot more out ?
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