When you learn you are pregnant, your mind will start planning a future with your child. You start thinking about names, whether the baby will be a boy or a girl, you plan to tell your loved ones. You have dreams and are excited. And unfortunately, the reality is that there are a lot of dreams that do not come true. The stories don’t always have a happy ending. And the painful subject of losing a child is something a lot of people don’t discuss. If you haven’t experienced a loss like this, it’s hard to understand.
Your loved ones don’t know what to say. They are afraid to say the wrong thing. Sometimes people think you don’t want to discuss the loss, that you want to forget. Matt and I lost our baby in April 2010. I heard the heartbeat in the hospital the day before. My heart was shattered. To have to tell all of our loved ones that our baby would not be coming into the world was heart wrenching. I will never forget. We have Emily and she is our rainbow after the dark storm. But I will always keep the baby we lost alive in my heart. I will talk about my experience. I will remember. I never want to forget.
So if you know someone who experienced a loss like this, remember that the baby they lost will never be forgotten. You may not be able to do anything for them. But just let them know you are here. And if they want to talk, the best thing you can do is listen. Grieving is something that the parents will always do. They will do it in their own way. Everyone grieves differently. Even if they have other children, that does not mean they will ever forget the ones they lost. October is awareness month for Pregnancy & Infant Loss. So you may see a lot of people sharing their experiences during this time. Please just let them without judgement. They need this.
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