Omg can I just say I absolutely hate it when someone has tunnel vision? Ugh!! Let me explain...ok so I have a facebook group consisting of 90 women who all had babies born the same month Miles was born. One of the ladies decided to read up a lot on sleep issues, sleep training and stuff like that. She talked a lot with a sleep training expert on some website and learned a lot and she has her 7 month old on a schedule where she sleeps, eats and naps at the same time every day. And if she sleeps in/naps longer than she is "supposed to" she wakes her up, etc. So anyways, she has helped a number of ladies in the facebook group with sleep issues and I decided to ask her for help/advice because depending on when he gets up and how long he naps his bed time can sometimes be 6 or sometimes 8 and I wanted some consistency.
So this sleep training lady gives me a schedule to try to get Miles on. The only problem is that not only do you have to wake him up from his first nap after an hour (which I think is weird-don't they say never wake a sleeping baby?) but I also have to have him be awake for 3 hours in between naps when these days he's ready for a nap after 1 hour 45 mins max. So I tried it today and he was a screaming mess by the time he's supposed to have lunch cuz he'd been up 2 hours and so he barely ate and there's no way I could've got him to stay up an extra hour after that so I just said screw this strict schedule and I put him to bed. So I'm messaging the lady and told her my problem and I read more about sleep info and I said to her I think I'm just going to try to follow Miles' lead and get as close to a consistent bed time as I can get cuz I'd rather have a happy baby who goes to bed when he's tired and sleeps as long as he wants than force him to go by a schedule. That's honestly all I said to the lady and she was like "I am so offended right now. I don't know why I offered to help you. You didn't even give it a chance" etc. I don't get it. Does she not realize there is more than one way of doing things? Does she think my baby will be miserable and unhealthy because he doesn't eat lunch at precisely 11:30 every day and nap for 2 hours afterwards? I don't know why she couldn't have just said "ok no problem. You do what works for you. This is just the schedule that works for us but I know every baby is different." It's like she honestly thinks her way is the only way. I'm just pissed because she reamed me out in this group of ladies I've been talking to and made friends with for the past 17 months and I don't think I've done anything wrong. She's acting like I said something like, "you're such a bitch. Your schedule is bullshit". Ugh.
Anyways, I'd love to hear what other moms do when their baby seems to have all different bed times because they don't wake up at the same time every day and don't nap the same length. He also wakes up for 2 feedings a night. I'm having a problem with that too actually because he has two nice long nursing sessions in the middle of the night yet during the day he rarely has a long nursing session because he wants to look around and babble. It's cute but I feel like he's not getting enough milk and I don't want my supply to go down.
Today was my weigh in after a week of eating right around 1800 calories and not doing any formal exercise and I did actually lose weight. Close to a pound and a half. So I'm 165 now which isn't too bad but when you consider I was hoping to be 160 by April 1st it's not the greatest. Yeah that's clearly not happening. I bounced around with my weight this month a bit. Oh well. What's worse is that I'm going to visit my parents for 4 days tomorrow and it is very hard to track calories when you're not at your own house. I usually try my best and look calorie info up and try to guess accurately. And of course I will have cake at my niece's birthday on Sunday. It's all good. April is going to be a wonderful month with lots of sunshine so I will go for lots of walks and be at my goal weight of 155lbs by May 1st. And that, my friends, is how you think positively lol
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