I'm a Simple Gal, am I Being Unreasonable? in Public

My birthday is tomorrow. Hubby calls me today on my way home from work and says he’s trying to book a getaway for us this weekend to celebrate. He wants to go to a resort about and hour and a half away from the house. I’ve never been there, but he has with his ex-wife. He says he wants to do a couples massage at the resort and he doesn’t know what else. The plan previous to this was for me to leave work right away tomorrow, then head up to the casino for dinner and to gamble. I had been looking forward to this since he brought it up over the weekend. I get home and he is immediately wanting me to help with the booking. He had wanted to go for two nights, but to me the cost is just too much, so we cut it down to one night.

I know you’re not supposed to talk about money, but it’s my diary and I will lol.

So just for one night it’s $541 including all the taxes and fees. Let me copy and paste what it includes.

You and your special someone deserve a relaxing night out together at (deleted the name of the resort in case of stalkers) . Celebrate with chocolate covered strawberries, champagne, decadent dining and a couple’s massage at WELL Spa + Salon. Package includes: overnight accommodations (deluxe guestrooms, suites and new villas available), Chocolate Covered Strawberries, Bottle of Champagne, $50 Dining Credit and a 50-minute couples massage at WELL Spa + Salon.

The deluxe rooms are a giant up-charge. After looking at the site, I said I’d also like to do the horse back riding which is $35 each. So with everything, extra meals, tipping, etc, we are probably looking at about a grand just for an overnight.

He just left to meet with a client and I can tell he’s disappointed like I’m ruining what he wanted to do. Here is the thing, if he ha just booked it and surprised me I would have been happy to go. But he involved me, and I guess I just can’t get over the cost. I’m trying to save money because he likely won’t be working over the winter.

Plus, I feel like if he really knew me and listened to me, he would know that there are several things I would like that would cost half that or less. When we got engaged, I got an engagement ring that I am in love with. We decided on the spur of the moment (less than 12 hours until our flight left) to go to Vegas and get married. I quick got a dress off the rack from Ross, and we actually got Wal-Mart (I know, classy) plain wedding bands. I’d like the wedding band that matches my engagement ring. It’s about $400. Edit: I just looked and the rings I see online are more. I swear I had priced one I liked in store for $400.

Or I’d love another tattoo, or to go to a Hawks game. I even told him a month ago that I want a late B-Day present to one of the first regular season games.

I know it’s bitchy, but I feel like this trip is way too expensive, and not anything I really want. I appreciate what he is trying to do. But, honestly if we are going to spend money, I’d rather get my ring and spend a night away camping (it’s supposed to be really warm this weekend) to get the alone time he is looking for. I feel like sometimes he forgets that I’m not the same time of women his ex was, and that I don’t need fancy things to impress me.

Last updated September 20, 2017