Dotting "i's" and Crossing "t's" in Day by Day

  • April 19, 2017, 1:53 p.m.
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I see online journaling as an interactive experience: we write, others respond, we weigh that response and either employ it or reject it. I’m always a bit taken aback by people who take offense because I commented. Why leave a notes section if you don’t want to hear honest feedback? Or at least announce your preference, as in “if you disagree, please don’t comment”. But deleting my comment or even worse, unfriending me, because I didn’t 110% agree with your viewpoint on anything and everything just reveals your true nature: controlling. And that puts you in a new category: outer fringes. YOU may enjoy your head games, but I find them tiring, boring, and a complete waste of my time.

My younger brother continues to struggle. My SIL flew his son home (he teaches surfing in Hawaii) so the cousins are bonding. They did a lung biopsy but haven’t heard from SIL yet today to hear results. It’s NOT an infection, so cancer is the most likely scenario at this point. All of our mutual friends call me with doctor referrals and medical advice (even though they’re not in the medical field) as if he’s my child or my spouse. I know they mean well, but I am not the person who makes the decisions on my brother’s health. That is my SIL’s and his son’s job. I try to be patient but I wish people knew how draining it is to listen to a 20 minute explanation of how Dr. XYZ cured an aunt’s shoulder issues and the caller is positive that Dr. XYZ can help my brother, too.

I don’t bother to point out that my brother’s problem is not in his shoulder or that we’ve had dozens of doctor recommendations or that they are not medical experts or that I am not making the medical decisions or that I’ve had 6 similar recommendations that day or that their long-winded phone call means my SIL can’t get through. They mean well, so I can’t bite their heads off, but geez, I wish people would think beyond themselves occasionally.

It’s a quiet week and I’m taking full advantage…getting things done at a slower pace, catching up on small projects, getting ahead of the writing projects and uploading the drafts so all I have to do is hit “send” when the time is right. I’ve also used the down time to research tablets: Kindle, Fire, and ipad. I think I’ve settled on ipad because of the facetime feature.

Oh, I finally finished the survey so I’ll post it:

  1. Five ways to win my heart:
    Generous/kind to others
    Love my kids
    Good sense of humor
    Praise my writing
    Keep an open mind

  2. Some things I feel strongly about:
    The troubles of the poor
    My faith
    The danger of Tea Party politics

  3. A book I love:
    All of them. The Bible for its poetic and spiritual beauty, of course, but I love books of poems, a good whodunnit, autobiographies, history, etc. My most recent good read was “Toxic Charities”.

  4. Bullet my day:
    Eat breakfast
    Plan what’s for dinner
    Do a little house cleaning
    Play on the computer
    Spend a few hours of bookwork for the business
    Eat lunch
    Play on the computer
    Work on my non-profit stuff
    Work on business stuff
    Play on the computer
    Write magazine articles
    Make dinner
    Play on the computer
    Watch TV
    Take a shower
    Play on the computer
    Watch TV
    Play on the computer

  5. Things I would to say to an ex:
    Why do you want to be friends with me on facebook? You left me for Odette!

  6. My view on mainstream music:
    I am a big fan of Adele, Lady GaGa (was a fan before the Superbowl, too), Lorde, Bruno Mars, and the Beiber song with the line “My Mama don’t like you and she likes everyone”. I also like some of Taylor Swift’s stuff, too. For country mainstream I like Lady Antebellum but dislike Kenny Chesney. Can’t think of much else…big fan of 50s & 60s but that’s not mainstream.

  7. Five pet peeves:
    People who quote catchy Fox “News” phrases (“POTUS”, “snowflake”, “socialist”, etc.). It doesn’t make you sound smart.

People who think I am obligated to feel comfortable around their obviously uncontrolled pit bull.

My nosey neighbor who tried to cut down my tree.

Tourists who move here and think we care about how they “do it up north”.

“Christians” who condemn others to hell for their perceived sin yet miss their own judgmental attitude (SIN! And, by the way, God doesn’t grade on a bell curve so get over your sanctimonious self).

  1. What I ate today:
    Pineapple and cottage cheese
    Whatever I decide on tonight for dinner

  2. How important do I think education is:
    It is vital, but should never be all-consuming (see #15)

  3. First ten songs on my Spotify:
    I don’t use Spotify

  4. My Family:
    My husband
    Eldest son
    Youngest son
    Deceased son
    My younger brother
    Aunt and Uncle
    Crazy Aunt
    Numerous in-laws

  5. Five guys I find attractive:
    Humphrey Bogart
    Men who find intelligent women sexy
    Lord, I don’t know…men are men…some have chemistry, some don’t.

  6. I am ok with my body except:
    Weight, height, hair

  7. What I wore today:
    Jeans and a shirt
    Slacks and a blouse

  8. My Zodiac sign is:

  9. Something I always think about:
    Family, business, the non-profit

  10. Something I am proud of:
    My published articles, my non-profit, and my boys

  11. A problem you have had:
    Weight, height, and hair.

  12. Ten items you lust after:
    I don’t lust after things. If you get something cool, I am genuinely happy for you. The only thing I wish I had that I don’t, in terms of material things, is my step-mother’s home overlooking Rockport harbor.

  13. My fears are:
    Outliving every family member

  14. What I hope my future will be:
    Quiet. Peaceful. Creative.

  15. My academics:
    College. I’m not overly impressed by academic standing. Some of the stupidest people I know are college educated. Some of the most morally bereft people I know hold Masters degrees. And some of the most obnoxious human beings to walk the face of the earth are PhDs. So, yeah, your level of education means nothing to me, but there ya go.

  16. What I miss:
    My deceased son
    My deceased dog
    My flexible body in my younger years

  17. Five things that make me cry:
    Thinking about the friends I’ve lost
    Thinking about the family I’ve lost
    Seeing pictures of suffering people
    Sad stories
    Stubbing my toe

  18. Some things you are currently worried about:
    See number 20

  19. Some things I like about myself:
    I’m generous
    I don’t belittle others
    I’m creative.

  20. A quote I try to live by:
    Be true to thine ownself.

  21. A place I would like to live:
    New England, but not in winter
    Norway, but not in winter
    A secluded island (guess which season)

  22. Five weird things I like:
    The smell of gasoline
    Puns…are puns weird? Maybe not.
    Peanut butter and potato chip sandwiches
    I can’t come up with a fifth. Sorry.

  23. One thing I am excited for:
    I dunno…world peace?

Ferret Mom April 19, 2017

You probably listen to more modern music than I do. I'm super stuck in the past on music.

ConnieK Ferret Mom ⋅ April 19, 2017

I go from NPR on the far left of my radio buttons to young contemporary stuff like Lorde and Lady GaGa to country in the middle, two oldies stations after that and on the far right, Classical and Christian contemporary. :)

Ferret Mom ConnieK ⋅ April 19, 2017

I typically have my radio at home on a classic rock station. I pretty much have that on 24/7, but I also listen to NPR.

ConnieK Ferret Mom ⋅ April 19, 2017

Classic rock is what I grew up on so I probably listen to that most but now so much of it is that "I heart radio" and so cookie cutter sometimes. I like the 60s Show on NPR on Saturday afternoons.

GypsyWynd April 19, 2017

Oh dear. I'm afraid I'm guilty of one of your pet peeves. You can take the girl out of the north........but not the north out of the girl.

ConnieK GypsyWynd ⋅ April 19, 2017

I was talking about the blustery people who come down thinking they're going to change our local government, develop our downtown into a bustling city and just can't seem to understand that we LIKE our laid-back, island-time life.

QueenSuzu April 20, 2017

I like the smell of gasoline too.

ConnieK QueenSuzu ⋅ April 20, 2017

LOL! We're both probably junkies at heart...we just refuse to bend!

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