Life Throws Curveballs in Day by Day

  • March 28, 2017, 9:35 p.m.
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Hmmm…not sure how to title this entry, so I guess I’ll write first and title later.

My younger brother is going downhill. The doctors were going to do an endoscopy, but my brother wanted to wait until he is off blood thinners so they can do any necessary procedures while they’re in there rather than go down a second time.

Instead, they did a barium scan which revealed a thickening of the esophagus. This may be because of his long-running bouts of acid reflux, but it’s also a cancer indicator. Previous biopsies have not revealed cancer cells, though, so I’m still hoping for good news.

He’s in a lot of pain and his breathing is labored. He’s not joking as much. I told him about Mark’s memorial, some of the gossip, some description of the ceremony, that I read his words he wanted said about our brother and got laughs in all the right places.

I’m so impressed with my younger brother’s wife. She’s kept meticulous notes on his treatments and the outcome in a three ring, color coded binder that are SO helpful that the doctors and nurses ask HER for information. A part of me gets mad at the medical caregivers for being less able than my non-medical SIL, but I couldn’t ask for a better person to be looking after my brother.

So…I’d planned on driving up to see him this morning, but I couldn’t leave the neighborhood. The police had my street cordoned off. Sometime during the night, a man was killed on the lawn one door down and across the street. When I opened my curtains, the body had been covered, yellow police tape strung across the road and about 15 police cars up and down the road.

I live in a quiet little neighborhood, on a cul-de-sac. I’ve known most of the neighbors for 20 to 30 years, depending on the neighbor. We’re like this cozy little group in the middle of the city. We all have each other’s phone numbers, except for two houses at the end of the street. The lady whose lawn the man died on is a semi-retired nurse.

The police came to talk to us, but we’d not heard any sounds like a tire blow-out or pop-pop-pop (from the question, I gather it was a shooting). My neighbor across the street next to the death said the police told her the victim was a middle-aged male with a lot of tattoos. The police asked me about anyone seen walking around that didn’t belong (nobody) and asked if we knew of any drug houses in the neighborhood (none that I know of). Then they asked if I’d seen anyone squatting at the Vampire House (abandoned during the recession and stripped of plumbing and wiring). I said no, but transients did live in the greenbelt behind our neighborhood but there’d been no break-ins recently.

It sounds as if it was a drug shooting. It’s just surprising, since our area is considered quiet and safe. We are a good distance from the “bad” side of town.

So I didn’t get to visit my brother. The recycle truck couldn’t empty my buckets because the street was roped off and it’s more than a bit unnerving to have a dead person lying on your neighbor’s lawn all morning. As I said in a previous entry: life throws curveballs.

Hey! I finally have my title!

I’m okay. Rolling with the punches. I’m getting a pedicure tomorrow. A song for you to ponder.

Ragdolls March 28, 2017

I have a couple of his cds. I remember seeing him perform this when he was quite ill not too long before he passed. He was on a talk show talking about his illness. Sending up thoughts of peace for you.

ConnieK Ragdolls ⋅ March 29, 2017

Life is not always fair. Thank you for your good thoughts.

QueenSuzu March 29, 2017

Creepy and scary, stay safe and make sure your doors are locked at all times.

ConnieK QueenSuzu ⋅ March 29, 2017

I ALWAYS keep my doors locked...have since the late 70s. I think this was probably a transient and more than likely drug related.

GypsyWynd March 29, 2017

Life is NEVER dull at your house, is it??? Shootings on the neighbors' lawn? That's just plain creepy.

ConnieK GypsyWynd ⋅ March 29, 2017

The police are here today, using canines. From where they're looking, it seems like the shooter must have been laying in wait at another neighbor's yard.
And you said it...a little calm would suffice!

Shattered March 29, 2017

I hope your brother improves soon. Sending lots of love.

ConnieK Shattered ⋅ March 29, 2017

Thanks. I don't have much hope.

Ferret Mom April 01, 2017

That is intense and scary about the shooting! And I'm sorry it interefered with you getting to visit your brother.

ConnieK Ferret Mom ⋅ April 01, 2017

My brother wasn't up for a visit anyway, so it was okay. Also, we could have driven across our other neighbor's lawn. She was good about letting others do so.

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