I have been fighting a battle for a long time. Trying to get my children to do the very basic of things (listening to me and my husband when we ask them to do something, Cleaning up after themselves, even cleaning themselves). The nastiness of this house is just unbelievable.
Tonight is the beginning of the end as far as I am concerned. I have taken a stand.
Tonight their room got gutted. No beds, no dresser, no books. It is an empty room. I will provide everything for them that they require when they need it.
Clean clothes? Yep. I'll have those clean and ready for them when they shower.
Food? Yup. Making dinner after this post.
I am providing them with the very basics in hopes of getting some sort of a response.
Before the "Nay Sayers" begin and start a witch hunt for me, let me tell you of the things I am talking about.
First off, we are talking about a 16 year old and a 13 1/2 year old. Both girls. I have my refrigerator locked because I ask them to not get into stuff I have set aside to make dinner and they get into it anyhow. So after a long day of work, I get home, realize things are gone and have to figure out dinner on the fly. (Why???? When I specifically asked them to stay out of it and why they should listen to that). I walk into their bathroom and there are wet dirty clothes mildewing on the bathroom floor. And oh.. by the way... used sanitary napkins just thrown wherever in the bathroom. Found one stuck to the side of the tub one day. I find them just sitting on the counter. Not only that, but they put them in the dirty clothes hamper (when they use it) and leave a bloody mess to just stink. I ask them to rinse their dishes so that I can wash them. well I found a bowl, spoon and apple sauce hidden in the deep freezer so they didn't have to rinse it out. (Oh yeah.. the apple sauce was for dinner... I put it on ham and bake it.. but obviously, they wanted a bowl instead "screw what mom wants"). I find spills not cleaned up, food "hidden" behind the couch and in the garage...... stinking and rotting. Just so they don't have to rinse off their dishes.
Now, if you want a witch hunt for me, bring it on. I'm trying to help my girls grow into responsible adults. I am doing everything I know to do and some things I never even thought I'd have to resort to.
I take care of my kids. they will have everything that they NEED. But if they WANT something.. well, from this day on... they will EARN it.
At some point, people need to be held accountable..... to know right from wrong.. and to be expected to do the right thing.
I know I taught them right from wrong. I'm tired of blaming myself. I know I did the very best I could. It's time for them to be responsible for their own actions,
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