Sarah’s lease is ending at the end of October and we’ve been talking about options because of it. We’ve only been dating for three months, but we both know that this feels like a long term relationship and we’re ready to move in together. She’d also like to get out of her apartment because she doesn’t like the location or the landlord.
But the problem is we also agree that her moving to my place isn’t a good option because, as she says it, my apartment isn’t ideal for fat people. It’s on the second floor of an older building with a walk up a narrow staircase. The doorways are narrow, and both the bathroom and the kitchen are small. The bathroom is probably the worst for her because she says she can’t even sit on the toilet comfortably.
So we’re apartment hunting. A new place for both of us.
We had our first mini argument the other day, I guess I said something insensitive but I didn’t really mean it that way. She was talking about getting rid of something because it didn’t really work right for fat people (much like my apartment), and I responded that perhaps she should keep it because maybe she’ll want to use it in the future if she loses weight.
I was not saying that I think she needs to lose weight. Not only would I never say that to her, but I honestly don’e feel like she does. She is very happy at her weight, and I am attracted to her body size.
But she interpreted what I said as a comment that she should lose weight. She had a hurt look in her eyes when she responded to me that she wasn’t going to be losing weight. She said that she hoped I was OK with the fact that she has no intention to lose weight and that she really never expects to weigh less than she currently does.
I backtracked and told her I wasn’t implying that. I reassured her that I am happy with her size and don’t want her to lose anything.
Then she said something I already knew but she had never actually said to me before. She told me she is actively trying to gain weight. She seemed a little embarrassed to say it, and a little nervous about what my reaction was going to be.
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