My little girl... in The start of something?

She's going to be 19 in a few months but she'll always be my little girl to me...

And it breaks my heart to see her going out with some hoodlum.

It only started recently but she spent the night at his place last Friday. I didn't want her to stay there and she wasn't supposed to stay there but whaddya know, circumstances had it that she ended up spending the night there... and her phone happened to not be working that night so she wasn't able to call me. They were supposed to go out but he got so drunk beforehand that he passed out so they stayed at his place and she had to stay too seeing as she couldn't contact anyone. (yeah right)

This boy friended me on facebook and he's the lowest of low, lowlife. Yes, I'm going to judge him now, but my judgements are based on what I see on facebook, and from what I hear from my son (who also knows him) and my daughter... if I met him and he gave me another impression, I'd change my opinion...

He's got so many pictures of his arse on facebook... Some he's just mooning, but in one, he's passed out drunk (lots of those) and his friends drew pictures all over him and took a photo of it. Now I know kids do this, and that's fine, but does my daughter have to date someone like this??? He smokes, he drinks... Two things that she's against yet she'll accept it just to have someone.

You see that's what I think it stems from; her need to have a special someone. She'll be desperate for a boy and she'll take the first one who shows half an interest in her and this boy happened to be it.

She told me herself that "she wouldn't want to be on his bad side" This was before she was dating him. My son said he can be aggressive. This boy is bi-sexual and there are photos of him kissing other boys on facebook. I have nothing against his sexuality but I don't get the need to flaunt yourself sexually on social media.. gay/straight/bi... I don't get it. It takes the specialness away...

He's also obviously drunk in most of the photos. Why would he have friended me on facebook??? Did he want me to see all that shit? I don't get it. And what the hell is wrong with my daughter? Why doesn't she care enough about herself to get someone decent. I have to ask her what she likes about him. I really don't know what she's going to say.

I'm only skimming the surface of this whole thing. I know I haven't expressed myself properly. I'm sad, angry, disappointed and worried all at the same time. I can only hope they break up soon and she doesn't end up with a disease or worse