alright…i have not read the books and i have no interest in seeing the movie.
has anyone else read the books?
all i keep hearing on facebook and on the radio and on tv is either how amazing these books and the movie are OR how terrible and disgusting it all is.
so…opinions?
my husband keeps asking me if we have to go see the movie this weekend. i keep telling him no, but i think he secretly wants to go. i dont think id be too comfortable going though. ive been contemplating reading the book…but ive heard its not even that good.
an old friend of mine posted an article on facebook about how 50 shades is all about the sexual exploitation of women and promoting sexual violence. the friend, however, is a bit of a bible thumper and very involved in her church. she and her husband saved themselves for marriage, so i would think she has a bit of a skewed idea on sex in general. i know the premise of the story is bondage and dominatrix, but does that really promote sexual violence? arent they two consenting adults? the article went on to talk about how 89% of men who view porn are watching violent porn, many videos that have rape scenes and are inflicting lots of pain on their partners.
i guess the question im asking is…
do you feel that 50 shades of grey is promoting sexual violence or showing a different side of sexuality that people enjoy that can be a little risky? is creating this erotic novel into a movie promoting this sexual culture more than it should?
i dunno. its all interesting and i like to hear different points of view. i think that if the book/movie are showing a different sexual preference, but showing it in a way that promote communication and trust between partners, then its alright. there is a difference between dominatrix/bondage sex and sexual violence and i think some people are confusing the two.
i dont think ive talked about this on here. i know i talked about it on OpenDiary. sex is sometimes a difficult thing for me. when i was between the ages of 5-9, my cousin molested me at almost every family gathering we had between those four years. i dont want to get into details about it…but because of that, sex tends to be a bit scary and taboo sometimes for me. i have some anxiety about it and i luckily have a great husband who understands. its kind of weird…i believe that people should be open about sex, people should explore new things, i do not believe in saving yourself for marriage (gotta test drive before you buy, right?) and i think that the media puts too much sex out in the world for people to really understand because we do not have a dialogue about sex in this country. i think our society makes sex very confusing and taboo out of ignorance. that being said, how i discuss sex, even with my husband, can be very difficult for me.
recently, my best friend came to me with a sex question. she lost her virginity only 2 years ago and is now in a long term relationship. i was a little put off that she asked me about sex because it was never part of our relationship as friends. i lost my virginity when i was 15, but since she never had a boyfriend and was a virgin, i never confided in her about sex. so it was a little weird to say the least. sigh
so yeah…sex…
can be very difficult for me to talk about. i am an advocate for being open about sex, but ive got a complicated relationship with it.
please share your thoughts about 50 shades. just want some insight into this phenomenon!
~mana~
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