Impossible to please in How we’re feeling about him

Revised: 06/07/2026 10:27 a.m.

  • June 6, 2026, 10 p.m.
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Ok wait, I want to rant about a few more worries for a sec😬 so we just called for two hours, and it was good and funny and I did enjoy it, but the more we talk, the more things I find about him that I don’t love. I mean OBVIOUSLY, it’s inevitable, and I’m sure he’s finding things in me too, and it’s not like he’s perfect or I’m expecting him to be, and these little things don’t change the way I feel about him. I’m just worried that if I’m noticing this now, not even a week into dating, that later on I’ll get sick of them. For example, he isn’t exactly very cultured or knowledgeable. Maybe I just haven’t found the part of him that is, but today we were talking about a bunch of political/religious/general pop culture things, and there’s a lot that he isn’t educated on at all. It ofc doesn’t make me think he’s stupid or less than I am, but I’m worried that later on I’ll start finding his ignorance insanely boring or draining. He just doesn’t seem like the kind of person who’s curious, passionate, or hungry for knowledge, and I’ll admit, I’m not huge on any of those things either, but I just haven’t heard him talk about anything truly important to him, other than maybe basketball. It could just be a little thing, like a song that he thinks is cool and why, or what a certain book made him feel. I’m gonna glaze myself here for a sec, please forgive me, but it’s just that I would say I’m pretty smart. Not necessarily academically, but I really enjoy debating and learning, and I feel like I need my partner to have that too. It can be knowledge about anything, I really don’t care, I just want to see him get excited talking about something he likes, and I just haven’t seen that from him yet. From what I know about him right now, he just kinda seems like he doesn’t feel too strongly about anything. He tells me about his day and his life, and it seems like all he does every day is go to school, game, and play basketball. I guess he IS passionate about basketball, and I don’t want to dismiss that just because I don’t understand the appeal, but idk. In my head it just doesn’t really count😬🫣 so yeah, I guess my worry is what if he has no ambitions or dreams. I know we’re still kids, and we’re allowed to still be figuring things out, but I need someone who can mentally challenge me and teach me new things. I might be going too deep into this ā€œchill teen relationshipā€, and I’m not expecting to marry him or anything, I just want a relationship that I enjoy being in. I would rather have a painful, emotion filled relationship, than a bland, comfortable one, you know? However, we haven’t actually delved into the deep questions yet, and that’s not his fault. I think in my head I’m just expecting us to be this perfect couple, that can be silly, but still emotionally deep, sarcastic, but still sweet, and it’s unfair for me to expect so much from him, especially so early on, when I haven’t even given him the chance to show himself to me. I know I’m blowing this way out of proportion, but I just wanted to voice my worries before they became fact, in my head at least. Also I want to clarify on the basketball thing. I’m not saying it doesn’t count as an actual passion just because I don’t like it, what I mean is that even though he mentions basketball a lot, he never really goes deep into WHY he likes it so much. Ok now that I’m saying it out loud I can acknowledge how ridiculous I soundšŸ˜… I know I haven’t given him the opportunity to go deep. We barely know each other. I guess I’m just expecting him to tell me all his most intimate thoughts and feelings right away, which is crazy and so unrealistic. No, I’m not bored by him. I find him funny and such an amazing person, I’m just spiraling because he isn’t the knight in shining armor that I created in my head, but that isn’t necessarily bad, I guess. It gives me more stuff about him to find out, and if he was the ā€œperfect guyā€, I feel like I would eventually get bored of his predictably too. Maybe I’m just impossible to please. I just have to shut tf up, possess my soul in patience, and give him time to start (hopefully) opening up.


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