Ok wait, I want to rant about a few more worries for a secš¬ so we just called for two hours, and it was good and funny and I did enjoy it, but the more we talk, the more things I find about him that I donāt love. I mean OBVIOUSLY, itās inevitable, and Iām sure heās finding things in me too, and itās not like heās perfect or Iām expecting him to be, and these little things donāt change the way I feel about him. Iām just worried that if Iām noticing this now, not even a week into dating, that later on Iāll get sick of them. For example, he isnāt exactly very cultured or knowledgeable. Maybe I just havenāt found the part of him that is, but today we were talking about a bunch of political/religious/general pop culture things, and thereās a lot that he isnāt educated on at all. It ofc doesnāt make me think heās stupid or less than I am, but Iām worried that later on Iāll start finding his ignorance insanely boring or draining. He just doesnāt seem like the kind of person whoās curious, passionate, or hungry for knowledge, and Iāll admit, Iām not huge on any of those things either, but I just havenāt heard him talk about anything truly important to him, other than maybe basketball. It could just be a little thing, like a song that he thinks is cool and why, or what a certain book made him feel. Iām gonna glaze myself here for a sec, please forgive me, but itās just that I would say Iām pretty smart. Not necessarily academically, but I really enjoy debating and learning, and I feel like I need my partner to have that too. It can be knowledge about anything, I really donāt care, I just want to see him get excited talking about something he likes, and I just havenāt seen that from him yet. From what I know about him right now, he just kinda seems like he doesnāt feel too strongly about anything. He tells me about his day and his life, and it seems like all he does every day is go to school, game, and play basketball. I guess he IS passionate about basketball, and I donāt want to dismiss that just because I donāt understand the appeal, but idk. In my head it just doesnāt really countš¬š«£ so yeah, I guess my worry is what if he has no ambitions or dreams. I know weāre still kids, and weāre allowed to still be figuring things out, but I need someone who can mentally challenge me and teach me new things. I might be going too deep into this āchill teen relationshipā, and Iām not expecting to marry him or anything, I just want a relationship that I enjoy being in. I would rather have a painful, emotion filled relationship, than a bland, comfortable one, you know? However, we havenāt actually delved into the deep questions yet, and thatās not his fault. I think in my head Iām just expecting us to be this perfect couple, that can be silly, but still emotionally deep, sarcastic, but still sweet, and itās unfair for me to expect so much from him, especially so early on, when I havenāt even given him the chance to show himself to me. I know Iām blowing this way out of proportion, but I just wanted to voice my worries before they became fact, in my head at least. Also I want to clarify on the basketball thing. Iām not saying it doesnāt count as an actual passion just because I donāt like it, what I mean is that even though he mentions basketball a lot, he never really goes deep into WHY he likes it so much. Ok now that Iām saying it out loud I can acknowledge how ridiculous I soundš I know I havenāt given him the opportunity to go deep. We barely know each other. I guess Iām just expecting him to tell me all his most intimate thoughts and feelings right away, which is crazy and so unrealistic. No, Iām not bored by him. I find him funny and such an amazing person, Iām just spiraling because he isnāt the knight in shining armor that I created in my head, but that isnāt necessarily bad, I guess. It gives me more stuff about him to find out, and if he was the āperfect guyā, I feel like I would eventually get bored of his predictably too. Maybe Iām just impossible to please. I just have to shut tf up, possess my soul in patience, and give him time to start (hopefully) opening up.
Impossible to please in How weāre feeling about him
Revised: 06/07/2026 10:27 a.m.
- June 6, 2026, 10 p.m.
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