It bothers me when someone says love doesn’t cost a thing or love don’t cost a thing, or whichever is grammatically correct. I went with “doesn’t” because I’m not writing stylistically or with an attitude; I’m just writing to simply share my thoughts, so I went with what is grammatically correct. I’m not even sure why I needed to explain that, but what the heck.
Anyway, this friend of mine is fond of saying she’s not doing it for money or that money isn’t everything, and that, just for me, is kind of hypocritical, especially when we are talking about work. Of course, money is the primary reason why we work. Who the hell works just for fun and doesn’t expect to get paid? Even billionaires still work to get more money. Even celebrities who love what they’re doing still look at their sales records or what they’re contributing to the company.
I was fine with this when my friend told me she’s not doing it for the money, but to say love doesn’t cost a thing is just a whole other level. And that just bothers me a lot more than when you say you’re working not for the money. Why? Because everything we do is out of love, but money is EVERYTHING. When you love someone, you want to give them everything they need and everything they want that makes them happy.
Like, Valentine’s Day was just a few days ago. If you didn’t have money and you just made a card out of whatever piece of paper you could find, then drew a heart and wrote your dedication, do you think your partner would’ve felt good about that? That you couldn’t even afford a card? Of course, everyone says it’s the thought that counts, but we all live in a materialistic world where capitalism rules all, and it always makes us feel more special when someone actually spends money to buy us flowers, chocolates, jewelry, or takes us to an expensive dinner at our favorite fine dining restaurant, or takes us on a special cruise or a special weekend getaway.
LOVE DOES COST A THING. Even when you make a simple card, draw a heart yourself, and write on it, you still bought that paper, and you still bought that pen. You didn’t cut a tree yourself and make a freaking paper out of it. And you sure as hell didn’t make a pen out of metal tubes and other components. EVERYTHING COSTS SOMETHING.
I’m sure JLo probably didn’t mean it literally when she said Love Don’t Cost a Thing, but still, anyone who says love doesn’t cost a thing is BS. Period.
If you’re a mom and you love your kids, you want the best education for them, and that costs a lot. If you love yourself, you want to pamper yourself from time to time by going to the salon, by taking out food you’ve been craving, by buying new clothes because you got bigger, or going out with friends and spending money on drinks, karaoke, etc.
EVERYTHING COSTS A THING. AND YES, THAT INCLUDES ALL KINDS OF LOVE, ROMANTIC LOVE, PARENTAL LOVE, SELF LOVE.
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