Alrightee. You ready for the dirty details of my meeting with Theo? Here we go. But first I feel I must note that I was sooooo nervous about this meeting that I guzzled a beer before our lunch! Oh, the scandal of it all!
Name: Theo
Age: 30
Occupation: Web Developer/Marketer/Musician
We met: For lunch at this great little Italian café. I was a couple minutes early, and the owner (I think) of the place was sitting outside at one of the café tables on the sidewalk. He yelled, Mama mia! when I walked in the door! Theo wasnt there yet, and inside the place were couches with the New York Times spread out on a coffee table. I picked up the entertainment section and started reading. My phone rang. It was LDL (ex-love)!!! Oh shit! There was no way I could answer it! Theo was going to arrive any second! Sure enough, as I was pressing the end button to get the phone to stop ringing, Theo walked up!!
We did: Sat outside in the warm afternoon sun and munched on grilled tuna sandwiches. Dee-lish!! And not one single tooth issue! Hooray!
Convo: Just the teensiest bit of nervousness on both our parts. I had all my topics lined up, and didnt get to many of them. Eventually, I just decided to let the conversation flow wherever it wanted to. We started out talking about September 11th. I suppose we could have spent the whole time talking about it, and then some. But the conversation moved onto work issues because both of our jobs were directly affected by 9/11. I was supposed to be in NYC the following day and he has several clients in SoHo. We parlayed around the politics part of the whole thing and moved onto travel issues and places weve been and places wed like to go. I can tell that he is a thinker on a level far and away above mine. He definitely brought it down to my level. Not trying to put myself down, but there are people who can just run circles around other people and then there are people who know how to put things in such a way .? Does this make sense? I cant seem to find the words. Lets just say I was finally starting to really enjoy and get into our conversation. Then, as quickly as the whole lunch started, Theo had to go back to work. Wah!!
Part of personality I liked: Oh my gosh, the man is brilliant. And hes not one bit arrogant. He just oozes smart. His non-verbal language is very, very, very sexy.
Part of personality I disliked: He seemed a bit aloof. After further analysis with Best Bud afterwards, we decided it was either nervousness or he just wasnt into me. More on that later.
Part of appearance I liked: Aaaahhh .so much. So very much! First off, the guy is shorter than me, by maybe an inch. And normally, I would be so bothered by that. But for some reason, I liked it. I guess its because it makes us look like a quirky and unusual couple standing side by side. Okay, then theres the dark, curly hair complete with receding hairline and sideburns. Black-rimmed glasses. And the kicker .DIMPLES!!!!! I had NO idea that he had dimples from his photos. But damn, the guy has the cutest dimples!!! And of course, that goes hand in hand with the adorable smile. Oh and one other cute thing: we were both wearing suede jackets! Mine, an amber color. His, dark brown.
Part of appearance I disliked: I seriously cant think of anything!
How it ended: All too soon. He told me he had to go back to work and make some phone calls and get some other things done. I was disappointed. Bummed. I had the rest of the whole sunny afternoon free. Shook my hand and told me that it was nice to meet me. He was nice and all. But I just couldnt pick up on the vibes. Best Bud called me a couple hours later dying to know what happened, and as I said before, we talked and analyzed and picked apart the conversation. Best Bud said that I very easily could have intimidated the guy. She told me that I have overwhelmed people before. That everyone notices when I walk into a room. She told me that I might have just blown him away (to all this I said yeah, whatever.). Then she told me to chalk it up to experience. She told me that she was proud of me for doing this, and that its only going to help me get comfortable with the whole dating thing. Sheesh. Im 34 people!! Not 16! Why cant I get the hang of this?!!!
Chances I’ll see him again: Okay, heres the kicker:
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ONE HUNDRED PERCENT!!!!! Heres why: After I ran errands this afternoon, I came home and checked my e-mail. To my surprise, there was a note from Theo in my in-box. Basically telling me that he really enjoyed lunch and that hed love to get together again. I wrote back thanking him for lunch, but also confessing that I was disappointed that he had to get back to work so soon. He replied with this adorable answer:
Well – you know… that’s one of those silly awkward moments where I didn’t know if it was appropriate to hang if you were into it or split if you thought I was a goon. I didnt really *have* to get back to work, but I thought it would be polite to do so. I’ll just ask next time . lets get together and hang again soon so we can continue our “interrupted for the sake of being polite” conversation!
He also included something about wanting to have a quiet evening, and I told him me too—that I was going to take myself to see the Coen Boys The Man Who Wasnt There tonight. He answered back with a comment about wanting to see it sometime too. So, of course I asked him if he wanted to meet me at the theater. I told him not to feel obligated, and I honestly expected him to turn me down. BUT—-he just called me ½ hour ago to tell me that he would love to go!!! WOW!
We are meeting in an hour!!
Gotta go!
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