From a conversation today in The Irresistible Urge to Write

  • Dec. 14, 2014, 8:58 a.m.
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…you want one piece of advice that is directly relevant but may not feel that it helps much?

She’s not the one. That doesn’t mean that when you met her she might not have become the one

or that she might not have been if you had met differently, or even that she might not one day be the one if meet again in the future.

But right now she isn’t.

And the truth is, there isn’t one person for us out there
there are hundreds, maybe thousands of people we meet in our life who have the potential to be the ones for us.

(As we are for them)

But not as we are now and as they are now. When we get together with someone, we are not suited for each other

and all the happiness and warm glow of the first flushes of a relationship are duct tape and buffer time

for us to remedy that

And grow into people who are suited for one another

So there’ll be another one

or maybe the same one with more knowledge and experience and maturity one day

and maybe you’ll meet each other when you’re both mature enough to know your own minds, or maybe you’ll meet while you’re still young and grow into each other

but the thing to remember is that you won’t be alone forever. All you need to do is to become the person who is the most ready to give and receive the love of your partner when they show.

And be ready to catch.

~~Me, to an old… friend, I suppose.


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