I have to interrupt my series to write an update entry that really has nothing to do with the topic(s) at hand, so I’ll get back to the regularly scheduled programming shortly.
Here’s the deal. Remember how SexyPants sent his son (let’s call him “Mack”) to the working ranch/boarding school for troubled teens a few weeks ago? Remember how he had such a difficult and emotional time in doing so? SexyPants has been a little bit of an emotional wreck the last few days, though he rarely lets his emotions get the best of him. In fact, SexyPants is so very good at talking things through with me and sharing. I think it really helps him a lot to get it out without letting things get emotionally out of control.
Well, the ranch is kicking Mack out after 2 1/2 weeks. Seems that the place that specializes in helping messed-up troubled teens and hard-core at-risk youth simply can’t handle this one.
Ugh. It’s heartbreaking. I haven’t shared this part of the story, but poor Mack is a mess
.a complete and utter mess. Yes, he has Asperger’s Syndrome, but he also has other major, major issues and it is so out of control that I don’t even know what to say. I don’t know how to say it. He just turned 15. He’s got issues ranging from major social anxiety to lying to stealing to violence to incontinence (REALLY bad) to inappropriateness to
the list goes on and on.
Mack’s medications are way, way off. SexyPants and his ex-wife have decided to send him back to the hospital to get him stabilized again. So SexyPants is on a plane to Wyoming right now. He’s going to get Mack out and take him straight back to Denver to check him into the hospital and be under the care of a doctor who JUST adjusted his meds.
It’s none of my business, I know, but I suggested that maybe, maybe they shouldn’t send him back to the same doctor who just adjusted his meds. Perhaps they should wipe that slate clean and take him to a doctor who doesn’t have history on him
you know? If this current cocktail of meds doesn’t work, why can’t they send him to a place where he can detox and start fresh? Take him to a place that specializes in Asperger’s kids?
I don’t know. I did mention this to SexyPants, prefacing that it truly is NOT my place to give him suggestions, but that I did feel it right to express my thoughts since he’s sharing all of this information with me. And he told me that yes, it IS my place at this point and that my suggestions, comments and thoughts really do mean something. Of course, I’m not a part of the parenting, but I AM a big part of SexyPant’s life, so he made me feel involved.
Maybe this can be my confession entry, but I don’t know if I want to have anything to do with this kid. I’m ashamed to even write it, but I just don’t know about this one. While Mack does have a sweet, sweet side (especially with me–he speaks very highly of me to his dad and others, and even calls me on the phone occasionally to “chat”), but when his switch is flipped–and believe me, it happens like *that*— it can be incredibly frightening.
Guys, I’m scared of him.
He has an obsession with guns. He’s 6′ tall and growing. He’s strong as shit. He is volatile and extremely unstable.
I know this because I’ve spent time with him. Not a lot, but several days over the Holidays. We got to know each other quite well, and I quickly got on his good side. He was awesome with me! We laughed and made little jokes and we even threw football and wrestled around a little bit (at my light-hearted taunting). But I have a feeling that I could just as quickly get on his bad side, and if and when that happens
I don’t know. I really don’t.
I mean, I’m even scared for SexyPants. Yes, Mack has a respect for his dad, but there are times when I’ve seen him do a complete 180 on SexyPants, and it won’t be long before Mack is bigger than him.
I can’t say this yet to SexyPants, so I want to get it down here. I don’t know what’s going to happen with this kid. Yeah, if the doc can get him stabilized, I think it’s well and good, but what’s to say he won’t get out of whack at any point in time???????
OK. Gotta work.
Love you. Cherish you. Adore you
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* PLEASE don’t get me wrong. I want this kid to get better. I want desperately for him to be healthy and happy and lead a productive life. I pray for peace for his whole family (including SexyPant’s ex-wife). I don’t want a struggle. I don’t wish a hard life. And I’d love to be an active and involved part of Mack’s healthy life. I just don’t know what to do from this side of the situation, and it just makes me nervous for everyone involved.
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