It started with a “Hi, How are you?” in one of my social media accounts. I thought he might be a person who knew one of my friends. I felt this, as his profile says the same company as my friend’s in the information section. It was stupid of me to assume anything.
It didn’t take much time for us to chat for long hours and start sharing our daily life happenings. He suggested that I contact HR at his company to inquire about openings that match my profile. I already tried in his company through other sources before connecting with him.
It was a good start, we shared information about each other’s hometown and felt connected even though geographically and culturally we are poles apart. When we started chatting, he was in his hometown; he suggested we meet when he returned.
I was happy to have made a friend while preparing for my exam and chatting with him felt like a refreshing break. Daily chat about normal things turns into personal life and relations. It was awkward for me and I bluntly told him” Our relationship can not be more than friends and you should respect my privacy”.
He was ready to accept it but always tried to take things more than friend status. I promised to meet him as soon as he returned from his hometown. He suggested meeting the weekend he returned, but I declined because I already had other plans.
We scheduled to meet the following weekend, but I fell ill and had to postpone it. I informed him about my health. Things started going wrong when he was more concerned about meeting me rather than asking about my well-being. I felt something was off with him.
I promised him that it would be my treat when we met as an apology for delaying the meeting.
Our meeting started well, but he was silent most of the time, which made me feel awkward, and thought he might be uncomfortable talking much.
We had drinks and a light dinner which was paid by me as promised. After dinner, we went for a walk and he requested me to trust him and be willing to change himself. It surprised me, as I had already told him about staying friends. He insisted on spending more time and invited me to his place and assured my safety.
At that moment, I realise losing him as a friend. I can’t hurt him by taking our relationship from more than friendship. I knew things might go in wrong way, but there was a belief that he wouldn’t approach me on the first meeting and we could remain friends.
I hugged him and bid farewell. He asked me when we could meet again, but I told him things were not going well in my life at the moment and that I would let him know. I received a message asking me whether I had reached my place safely. I replied in affirmative.
He wished me “Good Morning”, the next day but I didn’t reply. He has not connected with me again and I didn’t try from my side also. Now, our meeting will be the “First Last Meeting” in my life. I lost a friend but I wish him all the best things in the future.
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