What is it to be in Life musings

What is it to be in a relationship. To share joy, share pain, share experiences. Share children. Witness the evolution of a human your heart and mind has claimed as “yours”. Whether that is your partner, your child, your relative. What is it to lose someone? Whether by death, breakup, or the long, slow and painful distance. What is it to love someone? To show your heart and have one say “I love you anyways” or to show your heart and have them turn away because they aren’t equipped to see it. What happens when your heart has been small since you were a child, but you did everything in your power to feed it. To become an empathetic and loving and confident (mostly) adult despite. To become as whole as you could be so you could love and be loved. What happens when an unhealed and afraid you messes up and hurts others. Does the wise man learn only from experience? He probably only can. Who is the most exalted of the wise men? The victim with the comeback or the perpetrator with regret? Can you know the dangers and the power of your love only after you have destroyed everything? Do you have to be the one destroyed? Does one receive a carte blanche in this life if the child inside you never received that love. Destiny (It is what it is) or the power of thought ( I have to fight) ? Only if you are willing to help yourself do things become brighter, things make sense. Love can do this too, but only if you love yourself first. Otherwise you can never trust it. And eventually you can lose it.