To anyone this matters to..today I fixed my car. I also thought I had a heart attack. They checked the heart enzymes to discover I instead had a coronary heart spasm. It happens during extreme stress. The blood vessels constrict causing blood to get stuck in the veins. This causes miserable chest pain from spasms. This increases my chances of later heart attacks. I was told I need to be less stressed.
When I tried to fix my car today at first my car wouldn’t start it broke down beside the Dollar General across from my house. I brought my jumper box over in my cat carriage tried to jump it. That didn’t work I noticed raw burned spot on the wires. Talan noticed after him arguing with me it suddenly turned over. He took off in it as fast as he could to mom’s. It made it to mom’s driveway and sputtered out. He swore it was the starter and told me we will fix it tomorrow. I studied up on what it could be and I figured it out.
I thought about it. He wanted to replace the starter without checking it or trouble shooting for other problems. I kept telling him the wire on the battery was exposed it was burned it only needed to cut that small part off and replace the battery terminals. He kept arguing with my I tried to explain to him how to test the starter without removing the entire starter. He screamed he knew what he is doing. I was so frustrated I tried to show him a video what was actually wrong he demanded to replace the starter. I screamed it isn’t the starter it’s the wires connecting the battery.
I gathered the tools needed. I asked our friend Pan to bring me the jack. She asked me what’s a jack. I didn’t realize she never fixed her own vehicle. They never even let her play with tools. I asked her grab a 14mm socket. I realized what I said and I showed her what a socket is. I told her after I clean this garage she is coming over here and I am teaching her how to use tools. Her dad said a lady should never have to fix her own car. I told her a woman should never depend on a man. Come to my garage I will teach her what I know. Pan said but mechanical work isn’t lady like. I asked her who made her think I am a lady.
My dad treated me as an equal I worked on cars with him. I was never told I couldn’t learn cause I am a girl. I was told let get our hands dirty and learn. God I miss my daddy! He wasn’t sexist I worked in the garage and did repairs with him as equals. My husband ego gets in his way. He assumes I am stupid. My husband has no idea what I am capable of.
I kept arguing with my husband he watched a YouTube video to replace the starter. I showed him how you use a wire to start the starter using a wire on the fuze box. I told him the starter is getting contact it’s the battery that isn’t having the contact. He argued with me till he was blue in the face. Pan Just stared at us. She didn’t know what to do.
Frustrated I took the tools back in the garage took it to the mechanic. The mechanic listened to me. He fixed the wire in a matter of minutes. The mechanic told my husband that my husband owed me an apology. Talan frustrated said I was right. I told him I know. Pan looked at me and asked if she can help in dad’s garage more. I told her of course it’s nice to have someone who actually listens.
Pan took me to the hospital after I started having chest pains. They also checked me for a blood clot. They said my heart had a muscle spasm causing chest pain.
I am grateful for Pan. She listened to me when my husband would not.
Last updated August 18, 2023