Journaling prompt:
What am I building? What needs structure in my life? Are my boundaries clear and firmly in place? What kind of a leader am I?
Your Builder Spark:
Walk the boundaries of the place where you live. This could be the borders of your land, if you live in the country, or your neighborhood block if you’re a city-dweller.
As you walk, consider what you keep “inside” this boundary and what stays outside it. Where are you comfortable? Where do you feel at home? Your neighborhood cafe or market might fall inside your boundaries, for example. Where is the edge?
As you walk and consider these physical boundaries, consider your own personal ones. Where do you draw the line in your relationships with others, in order to honor your own sovereignty?
Boundaries are definitely not an issue with me. I don't know if it's Wicca or motherhood, or a combination of both, but I have totally come a long way in the "Not Taking Anyone's Crap" department. I used to let people's garbage rule my life, I took a lot of things to heart, and I never spoke up for myself out of fear that they "wouldn't be my friend anymore". But over the past year, that fear has just....vanished. I'm not gonna let you dump on me or try and guilt trip me over things I can't control. I'm not gonna coddle you or baby you, because I already have an infant. And he's way cuter than any of y'all.
Now let me be clear: I do not attack people. I will not call you out or humiliate you, or try to shame you into growing up. I will always be there to listen to your problems and give advice. I am a loyal and supportive friend. Always have been, sometimes to a fault. But it you're gonna be a dramatic, dishonest, idiotic person, don't look to me to justify your crap. I'm going to be honest and tell you you're acting....like an idiot. In the nicest, most loving, helpful way possible.
I have found that this change has made my friendships more solid and truthful, my marriage more honest and supportive, and my relationships are more real. I can put my foot down with my mother (finally). I know who my real friends are and who to go to in a crisis. And while there are times where I want to tell people to shut the f* up or go to hell, I know I shouldn't put that negativity out there so I rein it in. (Thank you Rick.) However, it's nice to know that I can feel that way, instead of just blindly going along with everyone else's influence.
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